Thanks everyone for some more insight and great advice!!
@BeExcellent , thanks as well for your explanation - I've read about this, and understand that the "honeymoon" period ends and we begin to truly see someone for who they are.
To your questions;
1. She is not exactly Latina - she is Belizean (we are from the Caribbean) - and as I've said before, this young lady was brought up by a single mother from the age of 7 without strong boundaries (she's been upfront about that).
2. Yes, I grew up in the machismo latin culture where my dad was the ruler of the house but he was somewhat fair with my mom. I took a lot of his traits (being an alpha-provider) sticking to his purpose and generally getting what he wants (including women).
as I've said before - my frame (at least) what I believe it to be has been solid, non-needy and more alpha than beta. Once in a while, I would let her taste some beta, as being too alpha too much of the time will also drive her away being a cold prick. She has done around 90% of the pursuing since we started dating (most of the communication we have has been started by her) apart from that, I am on my purpose, have a social life, and very well known in my country for what I do in my industry. In my country I also have very strong preselection but again that's because I'm on my purpose and I live a rewarding lifestyle. Cannot be my physique. I am 6'2 and a very handsome man (as told my most women) but I am over weight and I've been cognizant of this fact. Never the less, I do feel desired and she (or any of my other exes and plates) has not withheld sex from me unless I fell in the trap of neediness and control (I use to do it a lot before).
in terms of SMV - she is an attractive girl! tall (5'10), narrow hips, nice butt, face a 7, body 8. However, my personality and charisma shines through whenever she's with me, and she always gets hit with preselection from other women. Also, many times she's with me, my phone rings and some beautiful women appear on my phone and she sometimes sees them (I never answer).
I have communicated to this girl directly and indirectly that I am ready and happy to walk away without looking back.
Something that jumped at me was when we were in Mexico and I got pissed about her walking leaving me, I brought it up to her and told her that her attitude is telling and that I am not happy with it, but I am also fine and that the door is there. She said to me "well babe, do what you feel in your heart and is best for you" - as in indirectly telling me, well break up with me if you want! (women talk for, get this over with and take the pressure off of me?) or is that me over analyzing?
in terms of investment - I don't have a lot invested emotionally as I've kept myself guarded. I do have money invested of course (however not gifts or material things) but mostly on trips and vacations and nights out, dinners, etc. al
She recently introduced me to her mom, very unexpectedly one night I picked her up at her home. She asked me to come inside her home (which I've never done before) and her mom was there - without preparation either. Her mom told me it's the first time her daughter brought someone to her house to introduce.
She also just got back from a trip to Miami with her sister and her husband/family and brought me back some goodies.
it confuses me that she would also spend all this money to go on this trip with me, knowing we would spend more time together, and not knowing how it will go. If she had no interest or was thinking about splitting up, wouldn't she just end things or decide to cancel the trip for herself without warning?
another thing I find interesting is that she leaves her phone openly around, however has a passcode on it and has NOTIFICATIONS TURNED OFF. So even if I hear a message comes in, I cannot see who it is. On the other hand, I have off message previews but you can see who messaged me. This is one of the reasons I feel that she may be hiding something.
she is also a heavy user of snapchat. I remember having snapchat and that was when I was into the whole nude game. That's what women use snapchat for - am I not correct?