"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Reverse psychology

check_mate_kid_uk

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Recently i have noticed how reverse psychology works, however i have used it negativly and never tried it positivly. This is why i am writing in discusion and not pretending that this is a tip. I just want your veiws or experinces.

I told a girl sometime ago that i will let her give me her number, at which point she starts playing hard to get and tells me its the guys job to win the girl over and that all guys do it.

I told a girl more recently that if she buys me dinner i will give her my number and she throws the same thing back in my face saying "no you buy me dinner and i will give you my number"

Both of these situations where just a bit of fun really and not too serious but i have noticed that when ever I make a flirty comment that makes it out that the girl needs to win me rather then the other way around, or that the girl is fortunate enough to get my number the girl seems to react by trying to do the same back to me.

Do you think there is anyway to use this to our advantage
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Those responses are tests to see if you back down under pressure. Don't let them get you on the defensive, and enjoy the banter. The exact mechanics of the date/relationship/soapy tit-wank are up for discussion. The important thing is maintaining your cool and sticking to your guns.
 

check_mate_kid_uk

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A test? iv have enough of those at school!
 

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I was once dating this girl who seemed prudish and so Id always call her a bad girl and crap and I thought that work by kinda convincing her she is bad therefore.. ha... anyways she became more of a good girl as I called her a bad one... so I started calling this other chick who liked me a good girl who didnt like to have fun and she did the opposite in effect trying to prove to me that she wasnt and she was down for fun.. good times- try that
 

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The thing is girls know all about reverse psicology, probably more than you do. That's why you need to be stronger than her with your game
 
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