"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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BeLoSH

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Hello boys.

:up:

I hope all is well. I was a keen poster a number of years back, actively browsed the forums etc etc etc. The bible hooked me and the rest is history.


Here's the deal though. I used to be one hell of a PUA up untill i met my first girlfriend, 3 years ago. From there, i've dated someone else for the past year, which is where i'am now.
In a nutshell, things aren't going great, so i'm looking to the future as a possible single guy again.
My game though will be pants, i know it will be. Even just talking to HB's in my workplace and i stumble. I'm a complete shadow of my former self.

Has anyone gone through something similar? Does one suggest i go through the bible again?

Anyways great to be back, i hope your all healthy and well x
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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drtk

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Welcome back .
I'd advice you to read the bible again. The answers to most of your questions are there and you'll refresh your game and yourself :up:
 

Axcell

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Yeah, I would recomend reviewing some basic material to help you get back into the "DJ mode." Most of the material will start coming back to you, and you'll be back to your oldself in no time!

Often, after a long relationship, (and I can say this based on personal experience), you tend to lose your "DJ habits." I know I started to turn a bit AFC after my first LTR, and that's because once you use the knowledge you have learned (making witty remarks, ****y humour, prizing concepts), you get the girl. However, there is a time during the relationship where you must make a transition into a new character, and that new character cannot be used when encountering girls for the first time.
 

Microphone Fiend

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talk to girls until you get back in the groove. it's like riding a bike. you don't forget, you just need to brush up on your skills and it will come naturally again
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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