"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Nite

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Inevitably at one point or another a girl will text you this or ask it in response to an online message. Or something

And I for one never have figured out a good answer
Tried funny ones - what I'm actually doing - extravagant ones
the only thing I think works is ignoring that and then skipping into conversation

What do you guys think? Or just like a list of generic responses

looks like a really newbie thread but, whatever I need the help
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Krueg

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It doesn't matter what you say. Theres a lot tougher decisions out there to make in your life, this should not be one of them... Girls like you for who you are, not how you reply to a txt message.
 

floydb25

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"Hey, just [whatever you're doing]"... Then ask, "You? / What you doin'?", and go from there... Preferably keeping the focus on her.

Simple enough, eh? This is just a conversation initiator... The basics of all basics to get things going.
 

Rainman4707

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When women ask me "how are you" I always reply
"Well i've been told i'm pretty damn good actually"
It always makes them laugh & they say "oh thats good"
 

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I've always looked at texting as a waste of time but, I've been told from girls that have liked me that they thought I wasn't interested. Saying because I never texted them. My friends text girls all the time, so its at least normal. Granted they're in highschool, but I posted it here because it (at least I Think the topic) applies to everyone.

Now i've started texting people and I just look at my phone and think what the **** there is no value in these ****ing conversations. Texting isn't in my comfort zone obviously.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Purefilth

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Mostly ill ignore these type. I have better things to do than entertain a bored girl over text.


If you have nothing on though say "on my way to pick you up."

See if she comes over right then ;)
 

Sir_Laid_A_Lot

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Nite said:
Inevitably at one point or another a girl will text you this or ask it in response to an online message. Or something

And I for one never have figured out a good answer
Tried funny ones - what I'm actually doing - extravagant ones
the only thing I think works is ignoring that and then skipping into conversation

What do you guys think? Or just like a list of generic responses

looks like a really newbie thread but, whatever I need the help
You don't necessarily have to answer her question. Take it as a catch point and start off your own conversation. Or you could just be DIRECT and tell what you are actually doing without the unnecessary AFC humor.
 

Mike32ct

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You're looking for some c&f reply to use on this chick.

We need to de-d e a nge lo you as soon as possible LOL.

As part of your d y d - detox program, stop thinking in terms of c&f for 30 days.

(If I'm wrong and the OP isn't thinking this way, at least 55 percent of you reading this are lol.)

Anyway, all kidding aside, don't over-think it. Just tell her what you're doing. She wants to talk to you.
 

TheWolfMan

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Agree with Floyd, and Rainman I'm gonna have to start using that haha.
 

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"nothing yet...but its subject to change ;) "
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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R.C

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Funny replies are what I love most.

Things like :

"I'm robbing a bank in Manhattan. Pack your **** , we're going to Hawaii".

If you got something going with her you can go for stuff like

"I'm up , if you know what I mean".


"Talking to the love of my life. But she's away now so I'm talking to you".


Depends on age / other stuff , but funny is what I usually go for.
 

HalfPUAHalfAFC

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If you reply, don't answer her question.

Just say, "Hey, what's up with you?"

Flip the script. Make her work.

She contacted you for a reason. True, she might be bored and want to entertain herself with a beta orbiter.

But, even if that's the case (I hope it isn't for your sake...don't be that guy), since she contacted you first, make her do the work.

Other possible replies:

"Wouldn't you like to know"

"You're funny"

"You out of jail already?"

Whatever. Just don't answer straight up and get her on her heels.
 
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