"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Nite

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Inevitably at one point or another a girl will text you this or ask it in response to an online message. Or something

And I for one never have figured out a good answer
Tried funny ones - what I'm actually doing - extravagant ones
the only thing I think works is ignoring that and then skipping into conversation

What do you guys think? Or just like a list of generic responses

looks like a really newbie thread but, whatever I need the help
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Krueg

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It doesn't matter what you say. Theres a lot tougher decisions out there to make in your life, this should not be one of them... Girls like you for who you are, not how you reply to a txt message.
 

floydb25

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"Hey, just [whatever you're doing]"... Then ask, "You? / What you doin'?", and go from there... Preferably keeping the focus on her.

Simple enough, eh? This is just a conversation initiator... The basics of all basics to get things going.
 

Rainman4707

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When women ask me "how are you" I always reply
"Well i've been told i'm pretty damn good actually"
It always makes them laugh & they say "oh thats good"
 

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I've always looked at texting as a waste of time but, I've been told from girls that have liked me that they thought I wasn't interested. Saying because I never texted them. My friends text girls all the time, so its at least normal. Granted they're in highschool, but I posted it here because it (at least I Think the topic) applies to everyone.

Now i've started texting people and I just look at my phone and think what the **** there is no value in these ****ing conversations. Texting isn't in my comfort zone obviously.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Purefilth

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Mostly ill ignore these type. I have better things to do than entertain a bored girl over text.


If you have nothing on though say "on my way to pick you up."

See if she comes over right then ;)
 

Sir_Laid_A_Lot

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Nite said:
Inevitably at one point or another a girl will text you this or ask it in response to an online message. Or something

And I for one never have figured out a good answer
Tried funny ones - what I'm actually doing - extravagant ones
the only thing I think works is ignoring that and then skipping into conversation

What do you guys think? Or just like a list of generic responses

looks like a really newbie thread but, whatever I need the help
You don't necessarily have to answer her question. Take it as a catch point and start off your own conversation. Or you could just be DIRECT and tell what you are actually doing without the unnecessary AFC humor.
 

Mike32ct

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You're looking for some c&f reply to use on this chick.

We need to de-d e a nge lo you as soon as possible LOL.

As part of your d y d - detox program, stop thinking in terms of c&f for 30 days.

(If I'm wrong and the OP isn't thinking this way, at least 55 percent of you reading this are lol.)

Anyway, all kidding aside, don't over-think it. Just tell her what you're doing. She wants to talk to you.
 

TheWolfMan

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Agree with Floyd, and Rainman I'm gonna have to start using that haha.
 

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"nothing yet...but its subject to change ;) "
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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R.C

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Funny replies are what I love most.

Things like :

"I'm robbing a bank in Manhattan. Pack your **** , we're going to Hawaii".

If you got something going with her you can go for stuff like

"I'm up , if you know what I mean".


"Talking to the love of my life. But she's away now so I'm talking to you".


Depends on age / other stuff , but funny is what I usually go for.
 

HalfPUAHalfAFC

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If you reply, don't answer her question.

Just say, "Hey, what's up with you?"

Flip the script. Make her work.

She contacted you for a reason. True, she might be bored and want to entertain herself with a beta orbiter.

But, even if that's the case (I hope it isn't for your sake...don't be that guy), since she contacted you first, make her do the work.

Other possible replies:

"Wouldn't you like to know"

"You're funny"

"You out of jail already?"

Whatever. Just don't answer straight up and get her on her heels.
 
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