"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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response to the 'i'll let you know' or 'i'll call you when im free'?

drift king

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what should you respond with if a HB you're trying to arrange a meet up with says 'i'll let you know' or 'i'll call you when i'm free' (knowing that she probably won't)?

i'm not talking about the girls who have low interest initially i mean the ones which offer you a time to meet up, somewhat cancel/flake legitimately (you have to give them one chance -sometimes these things happen) then when she flakes says 'she'll let you know' or 'i'll call you when im free' to meet up.

what do you respond with by call/text?

i have been in this scenario many times esp when trying to make arrangements and in turns into a negotiation back and forth of oh im busy then so i counter with im busy when she counter offers then eventually it leads to her sayin 'i'll let you know' or i leave it and never hear from her.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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My first thought is to respond.

"You know I'm going to be super busy between now and then. I'll call you ???(tomorrow, Friday, next week) and we'll figure it out."

1. You take charge.
2. You have a life.
3. You're suggesting there's a "we". Good start.
 

drift king

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but if she's already said 'i'll let you know'

and you respond with the line you said above when?
 
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