Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Dictionary.Com said:love
noun
1. a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
2. a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.
3. sexual passion or desire.
4. a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart.
5. (used in direct address as a term of endearment, affection, or the like): Would you like to see a movie, love?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Yes you want to be a challenge, but after the 3rd time making love I would reciprocate and say I love you back just to solidify the relationship, as long as she said it first and I genuinely did feel the same way.The Bad Ass Canadian said:If you're feelin' it, say it back and mean it. If you're not, then you can go all ****y/funny and basically let her know that you don't feel the same by trying to shrug it off. She'll get it and walk.
Some guys get freaked about this stuff. If I'm feeling the same and I know it's genuine, I'll say it back. No big deal to me. Just deepens the relationship. If I'm not feeling the chick, I'll be out and on to someone else long before she has the chance to get to these kinds of feelings.
By this logic you should never reciprocate affection.f283000 said:When a woman knows she has you that's when it all starts to crumble down.