She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Dictionary.Com said:love
noun
1. a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
2. a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.
3. sexual passion or desire.
4. a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart.
5. (used in direct address as a term of endearment, affection, or the like): Would you like to see a movie, love?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Yes you want to be a challenge, but after the 3rd time making love I would reciprocate and say I love you back just to solidify the relationship, as long as she said it first and I genuinely did feel the same way.The Bad Ass Canadian said:If you're feelin' it, say it back and mean it. If you're not, then you can go all ****y/funny and basically let her know that you don't feel the same by trying to shrug it off. She'll get it and walk.
Some guys get freaked about this stuff. If I'm feeling the same and I know it's genuine, I'll say it back. No big deal to me. Just deepens the relationship. If I'm not feeling the chick, I'll be out and on to someone else long before she has the chance to get to these kinds of feelings.
By this logic you should never reciprocate affection.f283000 said:When a woman knows she has you that's when it all starts to crumble down.