"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Response to "I love you"?
- Thread starter Htienvu
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Fumbduck
Don Juan
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
Bible belt hit the nail on the head.
the problem here is that most guys, don't address the actual issue at hand ,and the real issue is not rather or not you love her as well, but that she doesn't love you in the first place.
There is no fvcking way you can be seriously in love with a person you have fvcked 3 times ad spent a few nights with. that **** isn't love. that's chemical high from the sex/newness of the relationship.
This is what I mean by sit back and judge a woman. A woman that tells you this type of thing, in 1-2 months of meeting you and thinks she means it (xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx wrong answer). I know already she's not a girl I could take seriously. Girl i barley know you and you are tossing out the word love like it's the next property in monopoly or something, like it's just the next thing we do. "okay we have went on a date, and we have had sex, now I have to tell you i love you"
so for the ones that I know are full of ****, or don't know enough to know better, I simply tell them "no you don't" and if they say "yes I do I seriously mean it", just say "look no you don't,I like you alot but i barley know you. let's just play this out and see where it goes". If she doesn't like it fvck it. That shhould be the standard response. no need to get cute with bubble screens and and reverse sweeps, jam that ***** straight between the tackles on her ass.
on the other hand, there should /will come a time in your life, when you have a real dilemma on your hands. you have a serious relationship, and 4-5-6 months have passed, and she says "I think I love you". At least I did, beucase while I really liked my then GF, I wasn't in love. To make matters worse, she was pregno with my son at the time, and she asked me do I love her. Situations like this deserve more than a canned one liner IMHO. So i sat down and told her look, If I didn't have strong feelings for you, you would not be carrying my son, but to[ say that I LOVe you, would not be fair to the women I do love, my mom and my sister. Love is something, now, I take seriously, not something to be thrown around because it's "that" stage of a relationship. She respected my answer.
and you know what, the day I knew I was in love with her, seriously knew it, and I told her out of the blue while sitting down watching a movie with her, you couldn't wipe the grin off her face for a week.
In short, don't' lie, say it when you seriously mean it and you will have a better relationship.but don't take these broads that toss that **** around after 3 weeks seriously whatsoever.
I'm in the Mood
Master Don Juan
So we should all define love.
Dictionary.Com said:
The Bad Ass Canadian
Master Don Juan
Some guys get freaked about this stuff. If I'm feeling the same and I know it's genuine, I'll say it back. No big deal to me. Just deepens the relationship. If I'm not feeling the chick, I'll be out and on to someone else long before she has the chance to get to these kinds of feelings.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Yes you want to be a challenge, but after the 3rd time making love I would reciprocate and say I love you back just to solidify the relationship, as long as she said it first and I genuinely did feel the same way.The Bad Ass Canadian said:
The point is words have power and everyone wants to be loved not used. Just don't go around saying I love you everytime or it'll lesson the impact of those words.
