"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Responding to HBs when arranging meetings.

pete101

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You must have encountered this problem before.. You get the girls number then you call to set up a meeting, she acts a bit flakey not giving you a straight answer (maybe to not look keen) or just hasn't got as high interest level at the time of speaking.

how do you respond if she finishes with 'i'll let you know..' because really you know she is not going to let you know. what would be a DJ thing to say in response to that?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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DonGorgon

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DonS said:
Yes, we've all encountered this problem before and it isn't a riddle. SHE JUST ISN'T THAT INTO YOU. If the entire phone call is a giant flake fest and she ends it by "I'll let you know", then you say "goodbye", hang up the phone, sit down with pad and pen and create a plan to improve yourself through diet, exercise, goals, work, style, so that in the future it will be YOU who acts flakey with HB10's because you have so many of them to choose from. Get it?
Yeh that is something that women do to us but hate to have it done to them.. they always wanna know all the details of the meeting before hand...

I agree that if they already like you they do it to not seem to eager and to see if you will get angry and show weakness etc.. but if you dont know her yet then it means she thinks she can do better than you...
 

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Just tell her that you can see that she's busy and not to worry, you'll just go with someone else. Notice that you don't say that you're going to ask someone else. Tell her that you'll call her some time and maybe she'll have some free time to do something.
 
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