"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Responding to HBs when arranging meetings.

pete101

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You must have encountered this problem before.. You get the girls number then you call to set up a meeting, she acts a bit flakey not giving you a straight answer (maybe to not look keen) or just hasn't got as high interest level at the time of speaking.

how do you respond if she finishes with 'i'll let you know..' because really you know she is not going to let you know. what would be a DJ thing to say in response to that?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DonGorgon

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DonS said:
Yes, we've all encountered this problem before and it isn't a riddle. SHE JUST ISN'T THAT INTO YOU. If the entire phone call is a giant flake fest and she ends it by "I'll let you know", then you say "goodbye", hang up the phone, sit down with pad and pen and create a plan to improve yourself through diet, exercise, goals, work, style, so that in the future it will be YOU who acts flakey with HB10's because you have so many of them to choose from. Get it?
Yeh that is something that women do to us but hate to have it done to them.. they always wanna know all the details of the meeting before hand...

I agree that if they already like you they do it to not seem to eager and to see if you will get angry and show weakness etc.. but if you dont know her yet then it means she thinks she can do better than you...
 

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Just tell her that you can see that she's busy and not to worry, you'll just go with someone else. Notice that you don't say that you're going to ask someone else. Tell her that you'll call her some time and maybe she'll have some free time to do something.
 
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