Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Responding to a chicks indifference

EBickford

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So I recently decided to see if I could get something going with this chick whom I graduated with(5 years ago). The only means of communication between us is facebook, with which we are friends. I decide to use that " I found something really interesting about you" line, with which she bit to.

When I tried to play a lol hard to get with it( I said I bet you wouldn't believe me if I told you) she acted indifferent. Saying: "if you want to say it, then say it. If not then whatev!"

now this chick is about a 9. Someone who I remember was pretty cool too.

I'm curious as to what would be a good response to something like this.

Thoughts?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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EBickford

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I haven't seen her in 5 years, and we weren't good friends. More like if we saw each other, we would say hi. She also wasn't this fine back then either.

Facebook right now is the only way to at the moment. I don't have her number now, and I feel that if I just sent a message asking for her number, I would definitely get a no.

To the point that you didn't understand, this is how the convo went after opening line

Her: oh ya what is that. ( had her curious)
me: ya know, I don't think you would believe me if I told you.
Her. Oh lol, I was just asking, if you want. To say it then say it. If not whatev!

Her response honestly caught me off guard. Idk if she is baitin me into just saying it or if she doesn't care. She doesn't have anything invested in me or the Interaction. But also, if she didn't care, she wouldn't still talk to me.
 

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You didn't have the hooks in deep enough to try to play hard to get. She REALLY doesn't "shive a git" if you tell her or not. It's hard to flirt like that over FB. Some teasing needs to be in person.
 

EBickford

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ok, so should i just not say anything about wha that really interesting thing was( lol, it was something lame), and just ask for her digits? i feel like the rapport might not be there, and i am god aweful at building it over messaging.
 
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