"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Responding to a chicks indifference

EBickford

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So I recently decided to see if I could get something going with this chick whom I graduated with(5 years ago). The only means of communication between us is facebook, with which we are friends. I decide to use that " I found something really interesting about you" line, with which she bit to.

When I tried to play a lol hard to get with it( I said I bet you wouldn't believe me if I told you) she acted indifferent. Saying: "if you want to say it, then say it. If not then whatev!"

now this chick is about a 9. Someone who I remember was pretty cool too.

I'm curious as to what would be a good response to something like this.

Thoughts?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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EBickford

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I haven't seen her in 5 years, and we weren't good friends. More like if we saw each other, we would say hi. She also wasn't this fine back then either.

Facebook right now is the only way to at the moment. I don't have her number now, and I feel that if I just sent a message asking for her number, I would definitely get a no.

To the point that you didn't understand, this is how the convo went after opening line

Her: oh ya what is that. ( had her curious)
me: ya know, I don't think you would believe me if I told you.
Her. Oh lol, I was just asking, if you want. To say it then say it. If not whatev!

Her response honestly caught me off guard. Idk if she is baitin me into just saying it or if she doesn't care. She doesn't have anything invested in me or the Interaction. But also, if she didn't care, she wouldn't still talk to me.
 

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You didn't have the hooks in deep enough to try to play hard to get. She REALLY doesn't "shive a git" if you tell her or not. It's hard to flirt like that over FB. Some teasing needs to be in person.
 

EBickford

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ok, so should i just not say anything about wha that really interesting thing was( lol, it was something lame), and just ask for her digits? i feel like the rapport might not be there, and i am god aweful at building it over messaging.
 
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