"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Renting First Time

Metaphysical

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Still looking for a place. Anyone renting in Toronto, Chicago, New York, or anywhere else where the rent is $1500+ for a small 1 bedroom?

I've been looking around and found a couple of nice places, but they are so damn expensive.

So I can get an APARTMENT building for like $1400/month - but it was build in the 70s-80s and it's kind of ugly. A nice condo is ~$1800 a month.

Now I make decent money, but it's still a LOT of money just for rent. I was thinking maybe about a room mate, but that's a hassle too...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Borknagar

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Are you serious? That much for an apt? ****, I wouldn't pay a penny over MAYBE $800 for an apt, and still, it would be a rip off. For that kind of money, you could easily afford a mortgage on a decent 2 bedroom house/condo/townhome. That would be a much better route and investment.
 

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As a matter of fact, I live in the twin cities, which is decent, I know not the liveliest area, but those other places aren't worth justifying that kind of money for a stinkin one bedroom. Seriously, purchase a house, you'll be glad you did. A house is much more impressive than a apt/condo, especially at those rip-off prices.
 

Metaphysical

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Borknagar said:
As a matter of fact, I live in the twin cities, which is decent, I know not the liveliest area, but those other places aren't worth justifying that kind of money for a stinkin one bedroom. Seriously, purchase a house, you'll be glad you did. A house is much more impressive than a apt/condo, especially at those rip-off prices.
homes are 1million+ in Toronto
 

Zerro

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Metaphysical said:
A nice condo is ~$1800 a month.
Christ, that is over twice what I'd be paying for mortgage, taxes, insurance, and utilities combined for the 3-bedroom houses I am currently looking at 30-to-60 minutes outside of Chicago. Not to mention that you're not building any equity while you're renting makes even more of a raw deal.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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