Jair213
Master Don Juan
Wats the success percentage of an ltr working out?
Why dont they work out?
Why some do?
Discuss.
Why dont they work out?
Why some do?
Discuss.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
relationships are doomed to fail
- Thread starter Jair213
- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
They don't workout because they fall out of love and stop meeting eachothers top emotional needs required to stay in love.
For women its usually intimate conversation and non sexual affection. For guys its recreation and sexual fullfillment. Combine all 4 every date and you will stay in love a long time. Also avoid angry outbursts (these kill love fast) avoid annoying habits (these kill love a death of 1000 cuts) kill dishonesty (this kills love fast too)
There ya have it.
Epi
For women its usually intimate conversation and non sexual affection. For guys its recreation and sexual fullfillment. Combine all 4 every date and you will stay in love a long time. Also avoid angry outbursts (these kill love fast) avoid annoying habits (these kill love a death of 1000 cuts) kill dishonesty (this kills love fast too)
There ya have it.
Epi
Mr Wright
Master Don Juan
I don't know why people get worked up about this. Nothing lasts forever, enjoy things for what they are at the time. If you want to be with someone for 2 days or 2 decades, do it for as long as you have a smile on your face.
One day you're going to die, so should you just kill yourself now just to get the inevitable over with? Or enjoy your life for what it is and accept the end when it happens.
I think the best relationships are when people understand that they won't necessarily be together forever but enjoy it whilst they're both still having fun. People try to make out it's a marathon not a sprint but there are no real prizes for longevity.
One day you're going to die, so should you just kill yourself now just to get the inevitable over with? Or enjoy your life for what it is and accept the end when it happens.
I think the best relationships are when people understand that they won't necessarily be together forever but enjoy it whilst they're both still having fun. People try to make out it's a marathon not a sprint but there are no real prizes for longevity.
Serenity
Moderator
1. Lack of personal responsibility
2. Fear of loss (neediness)
3. More worried about yourself than focusing on having a good time
4. Not having the balls to face a problem to avoid confrontation
5. Some times people want to go their separate ways, and part as friends.
Apart from 5 they are all connected to 1. Take responsibility for your own happiness for the sake of people around you. That's what works. A good relationship happens when both give to each other and support each other. To make that happen both needs to assume responsibility for their own happiness and not expect their partner to fulfill them.
2. Fear of loss (neediness)
3. More worried about yourself than focusing on having a good time
4. Not having the balls to face a problem to avoid confrontation
5. Some times people want to go their separate ways, and part as friends.
Apart from 5 they are all connected to 1. Take responsibility for your own happiness for the sake of people around you. That's what works. A good relationship happens when both give to each other and support each other. To make that happen both needs to assume responsibility for their own happiness and not expect their partner to fulfill them.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
SgtSplacker
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Aug 18, 2011
- Messages
- 2,039
- Reaction score
- 504
Fact: Every single relationship you take part in is going to fail except one your entire life.
I think relationships fail because men just get relaxed and stop challenging their women. Women have no intention to stop challenging men. So after a while you just stop participating in the shiit tests, then she starts spewing some "you don't care anymore" or "things changed" or something similar. And things decay from there. The constant barrage of blame and accusation from women never stops, so it ends being men's fault in the end.
I think relationships fail because men just get relaxed and stop challenging their women. Women have no intention to stop challenging men. So after a while you just stop participating in the shiit tests, then she starts spewing some "you don't care anymore" or "things changed" or something similar. And things decay from there. The constant barrage of blame and accusation from women never stops, so it ends being men's fault in the end.
zekko
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Aug 6, 2009
- Messages
- 16,799
- Reaction score
- 10,030
This is a good attitude ^^^.Mr Wright said:
The thing with relationships is, a lot of people can get together and have fun while the hormones are raging. But once the novelty wears off, if you are not really a good match then there's nothing to keep you together.
The vast majority of LTRs will fail because you aren't really good matches, you're just physically attracted to each other. To further complicate matters, people change over time - they develop different interests and attitudes, try new things. So you can be a good match with someone at first but then seven years later you're not, because one or both of you changed.