Jair213
Master Don Juan
Wats the success percentage of an ltr working out?
Why dont they work out?
Why some do?
Discuss.
Why dont they work out?
Why some do?
Discuss.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
relationships are doomed to fail
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
They don't workout because they fall out of love and stop meeting eachothers top emotional needs required to stay in love.
For women its usually intimate conversation and non sexual affection. For guys its recreation and sexual fullfillment. Combine all 4 every date and you will stay in love a long time. Also avoid angry outbursts (these kill love fast) avoid annoying habits (these kill love a death of 1000 cuts) kill dishonesty (this kills love fast too)
There ya have it.
Epi
For women its usually intimate conversation and non sexual affection. For guys its recreation and sexual fullfillment. Combine all 4 every date and you will stay in love a long time. Also avoid angry outbursts (these kill love fast) avoid annoying habits (these kill love a death of 1000 cuts) kill dishonesty (this kills love fast too)
There ya have it.
Epi
Mr Wright
Master Don Juan
I don't know why people get worked up about this. Nothing lasts forever, enjoy things for what they are at the time. If you want to be with someone for 2 days or 2 decades, do it for as long as you have a smile on your face.
One day you're going to die, so should you just kill yourself now just to get the inevitable over with? Or enjoy your life for what it is and accept the end when it happens.
I think the best relationships are when people understand that they won't necessarily be together forever but enjoy it whilst they're both still having fun. People try to make out it's a marathon not a sprint but there are no real prizes for longevity.
One day you're going to die, so should you just kill yourself now just to get the inevitable over with? Or enjoy your life for what it is and accept the end when it happens.
I think the best relationships are when people understand that they won't necessarily be together forever but enjoy it whilst they're both still having fun. People try to make out it's a marathon not a sprint but there are no real prizes for longevity.
Serenity
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1. Lack of personal responsibility
2. Fear of loss (neediness)
3. More worried about yourself than focusing on having a good time
4. Not having the balls to face a problem to avoid confrontation
5. Some times people want to go their separate ways, and part as friends.
Apart from 5 they are all connected to 1. Take responsibility for your own happiness for the sake of people around you. That's what works. A good relationship happens when both give to each other and support each other. To make that happen both needs to assume responsibility for their own happiness and not expect their partner to fulfill them.
2. Fear of loss (neediness)
3. More worried about yourself than focusing on having a good time
4. Not having the balls to face a problem to avoid confrontation
5. Some times people want to go their separate ways, and part as friends.
Apart from 5 they are all connected to 1. Take responsibility for your own happiness for the sake of people around you. That's what works. A good relationship happens when both give to each other and support each other. To make that happen both needs to assume responsibility for their own happiness and not expect their partner to fulfill them.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
SgtSplacker
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Fact: Every single relationship you take part in is going to fail except one your entire life.
I think relationships fail because men just get relaxed and stop challenging their women. Women have no intention to stop challenging men. So after a while you just stop participating in the shiit tests, then she starts spewing some "you don't care anymore" or "things changed" or something similar. And things decay from there. The constant barrage of blame and accusation from women never stops, so it ends being men's fault in the end.
I think relationships fail because men just get relaxed and stop challenging their women. Women have no intention to stop challenging men. So after a while you just stop participating in the shiit tests, then she starts spewing some "you don't care anymore" or "things changed" or something similar. And things decay from there. The constant barrage of blame and accusation from women never stops, so it ends being men's fault in the end.
zekko
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This is a good attitude ^^^.Mr Wright said:
The thing with relationships is, a lot of people can get together and have fun while the hormones are raging. But once the novelty wears off, if you are not really a good match then there's nothing to keep you together.
The vast majority of LTRs will fail because you aren't really good matches, you're just physically attracted to each other. To further complicate matters, people change over time - they develop different interests and attitudes, try new things. So you can be a good match with someone at first but then seven years later you're not, because one or both of you changed.