Relationship question: freezing her out vs talking about it

[Fela Kuti]

Hi guys,

I've read so many times here that you guys recommend freezing gf out (a.k.a. giving cold shoulders) if she does something disrespectful. Now, from my experience, some girls tend to see it as sulking and that it's a childish behavior. I partly agree with them, especially if they don't know what their fault is. I mean, it's just silly, right? Some girls even counter by freezing out also so in the end, the problem is not resolved. So, does this strategy really work? Shouldn't we just state the problem and solve it together like adults?

 

[Ease]

What happened?

Talking won't solve it, but girls see through a cold shoulder too easily.

 

[Alex DeLarge]

Everytime I've given a girl the cold shoulder, it's because I don't want them around me anymore. Then they try to re-initiate contact where I just ignore them a few times, then they know something's up and become all paranoid saying things like "What did I do? I just want to talk with you". Then when they do this for a while just say something like "I don't know what you're talking about. I've just been really busy lately with work and other things going on sorry."

Really there's no point in letting a girl know what she did, because she'll think up every BS excuse under the sun to defend it most of the time. And you taking 5 minutes to listen to her spit out these excuses like a broken record player is not worth your time.