It's been said that in the beginning of a relationship, everything is perfect and all is well. But as time goes by, both parties start "being themselves" and thus, becomes the test of whether they can put up with each other's nuances and if the relationship is built to last. Question here is, is it better to avoid this game of being on your best behavior in the beginning, or risk being potentially annoying or unattractive and just let it all hang out right from the start? I'm not saying being gross like farting or garbage everywhere. Simple things like going through one's usual routines in the morning, eating all the food on your plate at dinner every time or being overly affectionate to a pet. Too much to show in the beginning of a relationship?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Relationship honeymoon period
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Hmm, read these two threads that will help explain your questions a little better:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=78075
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=84124
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=78075
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=84124
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I think we need to specialize in making the honeymoon period more permanent.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
If you want an exciting and vibrant relationship the couple needs to be exciting and vibrant. Don't expect an authentically exciting relationship if the people aren't authentically exciting.
DavenJuan
Master Don Juan
:crazy: :crazy: :crazy: tongue twister :crazy:Francisco d'Anconia said:
so dont expect the expecting to be simple because expecting simple means you simply expect simplicity :crazy:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
surely he's saying if both people are fun and exciting, the relationship will stay as such. if it's an act that one or both of the people are only projecting that they are fun and dont have anything underneath the gloss, the relationship will fizzle and wear off in due time.DavenJuan said:
or are you just taking the mickey?
