It's been said that in the beginning of a relationship, everything is perfect and all is well. But as time goes by, both parties start "being themselves" and thus, becomes the test of whether they can put up with each other's nuances and if the relationship is built to last. Question here is, is it better to avoid this game of being on your best behavior in the beginning, or risk being potentially annoying or unattractive and just let it all hang out right from the start? I'm not saying being gross like farting or garbage everywhere. Simple things like going through one's usual routines in the morning, eating all the food on your plate at dinner every time or being overly affectionate to a pet. Too much to show in the beginning of a relationship?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Relationship honeymoon period
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Hmm, read these two threads that will help explain your questions a little better:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=78075
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=84124
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=78075
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=84124
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I think we need to specialize in making the honeymoon period more permanent.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
If you want an exciting and vibrant relationship the couple needs to be exciting and vibrant. Don't expect an authentically exciting relationship if the people aren't authentically exciting.
DavenJuan
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:crazy: :crazy: :crazy: tongue twister :crazy:Francisco d'Anconia said:
so dont expect the expecting to be simple because expecting simple means you simply expect simplicity :crazy:
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
surely he's saying if both people are fun and exciting, the relationship will stay as such. if it's an act that one or both of the people are only projecting that they are fun and dont have anything underneath the gloss, the relationship will fizzle and wear off in due time.DavenJuan said:
or are you just taking the mickey?
