It's been said that in the beginning of a relationship, everything is perfect and all is well. But as time goes by, both parties start "being themselves" and thus, becomes the test of whether they can put up with each other's nuances and if the relationship is built to last. Question here is, is it better to avoid this game of being on your best behavior in the beginning, or risk being potentially annoying or unattractive and just let it all hang out right from the start? I'm not saying being gross like farting or garbage everywhere. Simple things like going through one's usual routines in the morning, eating all the food on your plate at dinner every time or being overly affectionate to a pet. Too much to show in the beginning of a relationship?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Relationship honeymoon period
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Hmm, read these two threads that will help explain your questions a little better:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=78075
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=84124
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=78075
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=84124
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I think we need to specialize in making the honeymoon period more permanent.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
If you want an exciting and vibrant relationship the couple needs to be exciting and vibrant. Don't expect an authentically exciting relationship if the people aren't authentically exciting.
DavenJuan
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:crazy: :crazy: :crazy: tongue twister :crazy:Francisco d'Anconia said:
so dont expect the expecting to be simple because expecting simple means you simply expect simplicity :crazy:
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
surely he's saying if both people are fun and exciting, the relationship will stay as such. if it's an act that one or both of the people are only projecting that they are fun and dont have anything underneath the gloss, the relationship will fizzle and wear off in due time.DavenJuan said:
or are you just taking the mickey?
