It's been said that in the beginning of a relationship, everything is perfect and all is well. But as time goes by, both parties start "being themselves" and thus, becomes the test of whether they can put up with each other's nuances and if the relationship is built to last. Question here is, is it better to avoid this game of being on your best behavior in the beginning, or risk being potentially annoying or unattractive and just let it all hang out right from the start? I'm not saying being gross like farting or garbage everywhere. Simple things like going through one's usual routines in the morning, eating all the food on your plate at dinner every time or being overly affectionate to a pet. Too much to show in the beginning of a relationship?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Relationship honeymoon period
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Hmm, read these two threads that will help explain your questions a little better:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=78075
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=84124
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=78075
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=84124
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I think we need to specialize in making the honeymoon period more permanent.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
If you want an exciting and vibrant relationship the couple needs to be exciting and vibrant. Don't expect an authentically exciting relationship if the people aren't authentically exciting.
DavenJuan
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:crazy: :crazy: :crazy: tongue twister :crazy:Francisco d'Anconia said:
so dont expect the expecting to be simple because expecting simple means you simply expect simplicity :crazy:
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
surely he's saying if both people are fun and exciting, the relationship will stay as such. if it's an act that one or both of the people are only projecting that they are fun and dont have anything underneath the gloss, the relationship will fizzle and wear off in due time.DavenJuan said:
or are you just taking the mickey?
