"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Felt confident today and well to cut to the crap...

Walking from the lounge of my school to leave for the day, I see a group of 4 guys, 2 girls and one of the girls a solid HB9AznMix (she was hardcore). The guys looked like losers to me, the 'kiss-arse' types that the girls just wanted for attention....

I notice them, catch eyes with the HB9 briefly (nothing serious, no AI) and walk right up to the group and politely but confidently say...

ME: *To Guys talking* Excuse me fellas *directing my attention at HB*
THEM: *Quiet looking at each other*
ME: I'm actually running late, but you seem to be my type and I don't let opportunities to meet beautiful women go by... i'm cod3r
HER: *stuttering* i i i'm...
ME: I've got to run, do you have a cell # ?

*Guys aren't saying ANYTHING, just kinda sitting there trying to ignore me. ONe guy is smirking like he can't believe i'm doing this in front of them*

HER: I *stuttering over words* umm have a boyfriend...

*At this point I knew I invoked the 'conditioned response' (as i call it) and really had no interest in spending anymore time, as I'd accomplished my mission already by approaching a girl in a group of guys*

ME: That's too bad, maybe i'll see you around campus sometime.
ME: *To group of guys* Sorry again fellas, continue... *walk out*

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I felt so powerful after that, I was on a high for about 3 hours lol. Just shows that most guys and most girls will respect any showing of 'balls' aka testicles. Eventho she gave me the 'boyfriend' line, she definitely respected me and if I had any real interest or intention next time I seen her, it'd be too easy



-Cod3r
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Ever tried saying Hi first and having a LITTLE conversation maybe?
Works like a charm...
 
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^ ^ Really ? I would have never thought of that bro... seriously thank you :rock:


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^ ^ I love her just the way she is, I've realized it now


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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Cod3r, how come you have a girl you say you love, yet you are doing these things?? :( ... seems pretty messed up..

oh and another thing.... Well... i felt really guilty when i had a crush on another girl, who i was talking to every day while being with my current gf who i love... so i stopped talking to the other girl... it felt very akward to go from one girl to the next like nothing had ever happened. I dont see how you can put a 100% and love into a relationship when u are thinking and being attractive to other women.. maybe thats my problem?
 
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Much respect.

And you're right, people do respond to overwhelming confidence and leader behaviour, even in absurd situations. The bigger the group, the less likely anyone will do anything to disrupt the peace. Had you done this to a table of 1 guy and 1 girl it might not have went so smoothly.

Most people (myself included) would sit and ponder all the things that could happen, when in fact, the simplest yet least predicted result actually happened.
 
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Cod3r said:
...I felt so powerful after that, I was on a high for about 3 hours lol. Just shows that most guys and most girls will respect any showing of 'balls' aka testicles. Eventho she gave me the 'boyfriend' line, she definitely respected me and if I had any real interest or intention next time I seen her, it'd be too easy
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Feels great being in control of your feelings and your actions, isn't it?
 
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Feels great being in control of your feelings and your actions, isn't it?
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It felt very good actually :up:

Cod3r, how come you have a girl you say you love, yet you are doing these things?? ... seems pretty messed up..
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I had no intention on pursuing young man, just a test of confidence. Tks for your concern tho, I'm sure my gf would appreciate it and hey so do i !


-Cod3r
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I don't get you Cod3r. You diss the site, then you do the approaches as the site recommends. I'm just confused.
 
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