"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Rejection... Bonus...

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Felt confident today and well to cut to the crap...

Walking from the lounge of my school to leave for the day, I see a group of 4 guys, 2 girls and one of the girls a solid HB9AznMix (she was hardcore). The guys looked like losers to me, the 'kiss-arse' types that the girls just wanted for attention....

I notice them, catch eyes with the HB9 briefly (nothing serious, no AI) and walk right up to the group and politely but confidently say...

ME: *To Guys talking* Excuse me fellas *directing my attention at HB*
THEM: *Quiet looking at each other*
ME: I'm actually running late, but you seem to be my type and I don't let opportunities to meet beautiful women go by... i'm cod3r
HER: *stuttering* i i i'm...
ME: I've got to run, do you have a cell # ?

*Guys aren't saying ANYTHING, just kinda sitting there trying to ignore me. ONe guy is smirking like he can't believe i'm doing this in front of them*

HER: I *stuttering over words* umm have a boyfriend...

*At this point I knew I invoked the 'conditioned response' (as i call it) and really had no interest in spending anymore time, as I'd accomplished my mission already by approaching a girl in a group of guys*

ME: That's too bad, maybe i'll see you around campus sometime.
ME: *To group of guys* Sorry again fellas, continue... *walk out*

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I felt so powerful after that, I was on a high for about 3 hours lol. Just shows that most guys and most girls will respect any showing of 'balls' aka testicles. Eventho she gave me the 'boyfriend' line, she definitely respected me and if I had any real interest or intention next time I seen her, it'd be too easy



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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Ever tried saying Hi first and having a LITTLE conversation maybe?
Works like a charm...
 
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^ ^ Really ? I would have never thought of that bro... seriously thank you :rock:


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^ ^ I love her just the way she is, I've realized it now


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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Cod3r, how come you have a girl you say you love, yet you are doing these things?? :( ... seems pretty messed up..

oh and another thing.... Well... i felt really guilty when i had a crush on another girl, who i was talking to every day while being with my current gf who i love... so i stopped talking to the other girl... it felt very akward to go from one girl to the next like nothing had ever happened. I dont see how you can put a 100% and love into a relationship when u are thinking and being attractive to other women.. maybe thats my problem?
 
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Much respect.

And you're right, people do respond to overwhelming confidence and leader behaviour, even in absurd situations. The bigger the group, the less likely anyone will do anything to disrupt the peace. Had you done this to a table of 1 guy and 1 girl it might not have went so smoothly.

Most people (myself included) would sit and ponder all the things that could happen, when in fact, the simplest yet least predicted result actually happened.
 
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Cod3r said:
...I felt so powerful after that, I was on a high for about 3 hours lol. Just shows that most guys and most girls will respect any showing of 'balls' aka testicles. Eventho she gave me the 'boyfriend' line, she definitely respected me and if I had any real interest or intention next time I seen her, it'd be too easy
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Feels great being in control of your feelings and your actions, isn't it?
 
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Feels great being in control of your feelings and your actions, isn't it?
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It felt very good actually :up:

Cod3r, how come you have a girl you say you love, yet you are doing these things?? ... seems pretty messed up..
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I had no intention on pursuing young man, just a test of confidence. Tks for your concern tho, I'm sure my gf would appreciate it and hey so do i !


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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I don't get you Cod3r. You diss the site, then you do the approaches as the site recommends. I'm just confused.
 
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