"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Rejecting ugly girls

mcpwn

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so how do u reject girls that are not good looking while being nice
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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lol, i have the same problem, people have told me to start acting AFC around them. Ive just learned not to escalate with them.
 

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I have this problem from time to time...a fat chick or other type of less-than-desirable girl keeps flirting with me....It's not fun.

I'd Say:

Don't be rude, but let them know you're aren't attracted to them. Now's your chance to put all that rejection you got from hotties to good use. Turn the situation around, and do the whole polite small talk into a "Oh, I have to go now...I'm late for ______, see you around."
 

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funny how when u use AFC around an ugly chick they like u more because u built rapport!
 

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Or if you're in a social enviroment...don't look at them, let your eyes wander....if they aren't brain damaged or uber-desperate they'll take the hint.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Crazy Asian

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mcpwn said:
so how do u reject girls that are not good looking while being nice
I actually don't know many fat chicks, but there are 2 that are really creeping me out.
In the hallway, if I see them, i'm like OHHH sh1t.

lol, but they might have hot friends :)
 

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krazyboy99 said:
for those of you b1tching about ugly girls, how many girls have u actually hooked up with? mainly going to the OP and crazy asian. beggars can't be choosers. get some experience under your belt before you start getting ****y. it's messed up to be a d1ck to a girl just because of her looks, but if you aren't even getting any then its just pathetic
Come on, have some standards. Being a DJ is about respecting yourself first. It's about attracting the girls that you want. You are the prize. Don't settle for the scraps off the table when you deserve the three-course meal.

As for rejecting a girl you aren't attracted to, it's a lot like getting over an ex. Don't respond to calls, texts, etc. Say you're busy. Keep conversations short, and polite, but as brief as possible. She'll get the hint. If not, you may have to resort to more brutal honesty.
 

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Come on, have some standards. Being a DJ is about respecting yourself first. It's about attracting the girls that you want. You are the prize. Don't settle for the scraps off the table when you deserve the three-course meal.
amen brotha couldnt have said it better myself
 

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Lol, i had the woman who lives opposite me came over and started chatting and she asked if i wanted to go out sometime.

I just said "really sorry, but i really am too busy to be seeing anyone right now"

Just tell them the truth in a way that isn't too harsh, and they will get the message.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Every ugly chick knows a hot chick. Networking is key.
 

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"i'm gay"

or

"you're friends with so-and-so, right? <and talk about how awesome her friend is and how you'd love to date her and such>"
 

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While you're still being polite while dealing with any girl you don't want to date, be an observer and learn from these situations as well. If she is acting AFC, take note, especially if she keeps at it persistently. Now you will have an experience as to why being clingy/needy will not help the cause with whoever you are trying to game.
 

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Say you are talking to someone already it's always a good one.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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