Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I actually don't know many fat chicks, but there are 2 that are really creeping me out.mcpwn said:so how do u reject girls that are not good looking while being nice
Come on, have some standards. Being a DJ is about respecting yourself first. It's about attracting the girls that you want. You are the prize. Don't settle for the scraps off the table when you deserve the three-course meal.krazyboy99 said:for those of you b1tching about ugly girls, how many girls have u actually hooked up with? mainly going to the OP and crazy asian. beggars can't be choosers. get some experience under your belt before you start getting ****y. it's messed up to be a d1ck to a girl just because of her looks, but if you aren't even getting any then its just pathetic
amen brotha couldnt have said it better myselfCome on, have some standards. Being a DJ is about respecting yourself first. It's about attracting the girls that you want. You are the prize. Don't settle for the scraps off the table when you deserve the three-course meal.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
ive actually done the friend thign on a girl I likeMichele said:"i'm gay"
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"you're friends with so-and-so, right? <and talk about how awesome her friend is and how you'd love to date her and such>"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.