"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Rejecting ugly girls

mcpwn

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so how do u reject girls that are not good looking while being nice
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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lol, i have the same problem, people have told me to start acting AFC around them. Ive just learned not to escalate with them.
 

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I have this problem from time to time...a fat chick or other type of less-than-desirable girl keeps flirting with me....It's not fun.

I'd Say:

Don't be rude, but let them know you're aren't attracted to them. Now's your chance to put all that rejection you got from hotties to good use. Turn the situation around, and do the whole polite small talk into a "Oh, I have to go now...I'm late for ______, see you around."
 

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funny how when u use AFC around an ugly chick they like u more because u built rapport!
 

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Or if you're in a social enviroment...don't look at them, let your eyes wander....if they aren't brain damaged or uber-desperate they'll take the hint.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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mcpwn said:
so how do u reject girls that are not good looking while being nice
I actually don't know many fat chicks, but there are 2 that are really creeping me out.
In the hallway, if I see them, i'm like OHHH sh1t.

lol, but they might have hot friends :)
 

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krazyboy99 said:
for those of you b1tching about ugly girls, how many girls have u actually hooked up with? mainly going to the OP and crazy asian. beggars can't be choosers. get some experience under your belt before you start getting ****y. it's messed up to be a d1ck to a girl just because of her looks, but if you aren't even getting any then its just pathetic
Come on, have some standards. Being a DJ is about respecting yourself first. It's about attracting the girls that you want. You are the prize. Don't settle for the scraps off the table when you deserve the three-course meal.

As for rejecting a girl you aren't attracted to, it's a lot like getting over an ex. Don't respond to calls, texts, etc. Say you're busy. Keep conversations short, and polite, but as brief as possible. She'll get the hint. If not, you may have to resort to more brutal honesty.
 

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Come on, have some standards. Being a DJ is about respecting yourself first. It's about attracting the girls that you want. You are the prize. Don't settle for the scraps off the table when you deserve the three-course meal.
amen brotha couldnt have said it better myself
 

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Lol, i had the woman who lives opposite me came over and started chatting and she asked if i wanted to go out sometime.

I just said "really sorry, but i really am too busy to be seeing anyone right now"

Just tell them the truth in a way that isn't too harsh, and they will get the message.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Every ugly chick knows a hot chick. Networking is key.
 

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"i'm gay"

or

"you're friends with so-and-so, right? <and talk about how awesome her friend is and how you'd love to date her and such>"
 

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While you're still being polite while dealing with any girl you don't want to date, be an observer and learn from these situations as well. If she is acting AFC, take note, especially if she keeps at it persistently. Now you will have an experience as to why being clingy/needy will not help the cause with whoever you are trying to game.
 

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Say you are talking to someone already it's always a good one.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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