A few days ago I had sex with this girl after a night out. I was wasted but I guess she wasn't. We talked for a good hour beforehand, I enjoyed it for what it was and didn't tell her anything that wasn't true, but it turns out that apparently she was a virgin and now she's becoming really attatched. I'm not sure what to do. I'm not interested in dating her or anything. I haven't seen her since, we've just been texting since she lives in a different city. She wants to come visit me on Saturday so we can hang out. I'm not attracted to her at all but from what I remember, we had good conversation and I could be friends with her if she wanted. Anyway, what should I do and is there anyway to get out of this without being an *******?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Rejecting a girl
- Thread starter mfd1830
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Just stop responding to her texts (don't answer her calls), and she'll get the point.
It's surprising that she lost her virginity while sober to a drunk guy. Didn't she have opportunities before this to lose it? And if so, was she saving it for the right drunk dude?
It's surprising that she lost her virginity while sober to a drunk guy. Didn't she have opportunities before this to lose it? And if so, was she saving it for the right drunk dude?
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Senior Don Juan
why did you have sex with a girl you were not interested in or at least weren't even attracted to? But I guess you reap what you sow. Just ignore her and she'll get the hint. Say you're busy this weekend and can't meet up. Leave it at that and never respond to her messages again.