"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Rejecting -- a family member. My sister keeps trying to 'be close'.

Accension

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My sister is 17 years old and lately has been really 'cute' with me.

I don't know if it's just because she's maturing but it's getting creepy.
Half an hour ago, I got home and sitting on the couch was my sister in a blatantly slutty, bunny outfit -- her old Halloween costume.

It's like she was waiting for me right until I got home.
As well as this freak occasion, she's been trying to snuggle up with me on the couch, brush my teeth, feed me, hold hands. Man, it's the kind of thing my girlfriend does.

Any way, is this just a phase or something, else?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Warrior74

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hit it, then go all afc on her, she'll run for the hills then...oh wait, what?
 

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I was going to say it's a phase, but with the bunny suit and the snuggling I'd say something is totally out of whack. Run for the hills, man.
 

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Her 'hormones' are probably going crazy. Dont get upset over it, shes just testing new things on her brother thats all. Maybe have a talk with her about boys.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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ech i get a similar thing from my cousin, who is quite younger than me (she is 15, Im 23). I think in her mind I somewhat resemble that twilight guy and like everyone her age, she's a fan.

Also, she seems to get b!tchy and jealous whenever other girls are mentioned.

I just tell her to "fvck off" when she starts acting like some creeper, although according to the literature this may be having the opposite to intended effect.
 

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She keeps running up to me and cuddling me. GRRR!
I'm glad you guys think this is weird too.

Still, if I reject her at a young age, couldn't it like -- damage her?

Warrior74 said:
hit it, then go all afc on her, she'll run for the hills then...oh wait, what?
hahaha
Yeah, this might just be a shi> test!
SHE'S TESTING ME, SHOULD I NEG HER!? lmao
 

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Accension said:
Still, if I reject her at a young age, couldn't it like -- damage her?
Not as much damage as if you did something with her!

The answer is kind of obvious here, you ignore it as much as possible.

I find both the OP as well as some of the replies truly strange. Is this something that commonly happens in the US? :confused:
 

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Tesl said:
Not as much damage as if you did something with her!

The answer is kind of obvious here, you ignore it as much as possible.

I find both the OP as well as some of the replies truly strange. Is this something that commonly happens in the US? :confused:
Hey, I wasn't insinuating anything suss.
From the replies so far, apparently sisters often have an attraction to their brothers :confused:.
 

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its cause you project that you are an amazing sex god that is open to all girls. Check out my new thread.

If you want this to stop, project to her that you are off limits and will only sleep with non blood-related girls.

The problem is that your sister is hyper feminine and therefore she can read your projection of being a sex god clearly. Unfortunately she hasn't found any other man thats as good or even comes close to you mate.......
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Whatever you do, don't get all weirded out about it and make her feel like she's sick. Hormones are out of control at a young age, and making her feel like a weirdo could have serious repercussions for years. I second the motion to have a 'talk' with her, though I don't envy you for it.
 

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I'm surprised that I have yet to read a response strictly saying:

1) Hit the gym

2) NEXT her

3) Don't ignore her, that'll actually draw her more to you.

4) If she wears her bunny suit again, dress up as Hugh Hefner.

5) Read the DJ Bible.



All joking aside, is this a serious topic?
And did anyone get a "Cruel Intentions" flashback from this?
 

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Still, if I reject her at a young age, couldn't it like -- damage her?
You're right. You wouldn't want to reject her advances and shatter her self-esteem. So you may as well stick it to her...

C'mon guys, I at least thought everyone on this board had enough common sense NOT TO take a thread like this for real
 

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Get one of your friends to give it to her. She just sounds horny with no guy to give her that release. Either that or she's got some sick fetish.
 

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I second the motion! Hook her up with one of your friends (one you know wont make her preg). This way she has a release and wont feel rejected.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I would say to........ hit the gym, NEXT her, don't ignore her that'll actually draw her more to you, if she wears her bunny suit again dress up as Hugh Hefner, and read the DJ Bible.......what? ....oh sh!t!
 

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Start mentioning the girls you date who are your age on a regular basis. Ask her for advice and stuff like that. Most girls who want to date me HATE that and they stop calling me soon after. I agree with whoever said ask her about her relationship with boys. If she's just making it to this stage in her life, then she's got a lot of emotions and what not that she doesn't fully understand. Better some one she obviously trust coach her a bit then the alternative. Trust me if she goes out and gets knocked up by some random dude, you'll miss the days when she just hugged you and stuff because when her baby arrives she's gonna be angry at the world and that includes you. Expect lots of broken mugs and plates.
 

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I just had the talk with her.

She said that she has had some experience with boys but finds me "hot for a brother".
It was also implied that the other boys didn't make her feel the same way.

The talk just made things more weird because now she's openly expressing her liking of me.

I've tried telling her that liking your brother is immoral ethically and that we're hard wired not to be sexual with family members (huge genetics talk) but she more or less just said, "But your my brother. It wouldn't be weird.."

I need more specific help.
My talk some how reinforced her feelings and now she seems to think that "it's not weird".

I don't want my sister getting slu>ty in order to chase 'the feeling' because I turned her down or something, and I sure as hell don't want to reciprocate the feeling.

Edit: I'm not setting her up with my friends. They are too old for her and the problem isn't a lack of guys. She actually made it pretty clear that she just doesn't feel the same around other guys as she does me. eewww
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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