"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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rejected form 29 year old im 19 this bad??

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hey guys im leaving my church and this blonde girl i see every week is walking out so im like kinda in back of her.. she goes r u here for confimation i go nooo lol u think i look that young.. she goes maybe 20 i go yeah she goes i see you here every week then i go yeah ur here wit some guy someteims she goes thats my friend i go... how old r you she laughs at me and goes 29 then walks away listen im not ugly at all but i kno its a bad rejection but how bad is that lol
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Anywhere but churt would be a point of no return. I bet she's just a nice girl that believes in god and all that crap. You're too young. Hit on older women in front of her, slvttier women. Her mom hot?
 

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sportf190 said:
hey guys im leaving my church and this blonde girl i see every week is walking out so im like kinda in back of her.. she goes r u here for confimation i go nooo lol u think i look that young.. she goes maybe 20 i go yeah she goes i see you here every week then i go yeah ur here wit some guy someteims she goes thats my friend i go... how old r you she laughs at me and goes 29 then walks away listen im not ugly at all but i kno its a bad rejection but how bad is that lol
You'll learn once you're older and you realize that bringing up age doesn't help your game, it just shows that you're lacking in it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Social_disturbance said:
Yeah but why do you want a 29 year old if your 19. Just stick with your own age.

Why? Older women know their way around and have less silly games to play.

In general anyways.

I've only dated a younger girl once, and it did not go well. I prefer the older women that actually have more to life than pointless ego-boosting and materialistic personalities.

Go out with whoever you want.
 

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Social_disturbance said:
Yeah but why do you want a 29 year old if your 19. Just stick with your own age.
Nah, I wouldn't say that. It's just that kids (young guys) are the ones who make a big deal out of age. I think they feel that it will allow them the green light to make a move. Young women seldom think about this; interesting.
 
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