"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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defiancy

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After you gave body language to the girl like eye contact and all that stuff and she is sexually interested or interested like how FINGERs talks about WEAPONS OF MASS SEDUCTION, if you don't talk to her or make a move fully then would she try to pursue you and make you jealous by talking to other guys right when they're next to you.....

Just a thought that came up within me...
Your opinions?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by defiancy
After you gave body language to the girl like eye contact and all that stuff and she is sexually interested or interested like how FINGERs talks about WEAPONS OF MASS SEDUCTION, if you don't talk to her or make a move fully then would she try to pursue you and make you jealous by talking to other guys right when they're next to you.....

Just a thought that came up within me...
Your opinions?
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If a girl is interested in you and you aren't giving her any attention, she may talk to other guys to try and make you jealous. This is one of women's many tests. How do you pass? Don't give a fvck.
 

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i find your wording so odd in that you say "gave body language". . .

It's not really something that you give . . . If you think the girl is hot... it should only come natural to try to make eye contact.
 

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If you do that DJUofS, wouldn't she want you or something?
 

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I remember a girl some years ago that was flirting with me for a full hour, she then went to the dancefloor (which was at another part of the club) and proceeded to dance with her friend.

I finally got the courage to get my afc-ass over there to talk to her. Ended up kissing and all. She said she found me very attractive. Me being shy and clueless I asked her: What if I hadn't come up to talk to you?
She said: I would have found someone else.

So the point is: The only thing she can see when flirting with you is your appearance and for most girls that is not worth the trouble to go after you.

She may try to make you jealous by dancing with someone else. But she could also be dancing with someone else because he's equally attractive - or maybe even less - but has the balls to go up and talk to her.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by defiancy
After you gave body language to the girl like eye contact and all that stuff and she is sexually interested or interested like how FINGERs talks about WEAPONS OF MASS SEDUCTION, if you don't talk to her or make a move fully then would she try to pursue you and make you jealous by talking to other guys right when they're next to you.....

Just a thought that came up within me...
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I do think women would do something like that to make you jealous if you weren't making a move. If you never make the move she will assume that you weren't interested or you were too shy to make a move. Not good, so just talk to her already before she's gone forever.
 

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Originally posted by defiancy
If you do that DJUofS, wouldn't she want you or something?
Generally a women tests you when she is interested in you.
 

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Originally posted by DJUofS
Generally a women tests you when she is interested in you.
So if you pass this test do you think the woman would approach you?
 

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Originally posted by Fatality
So if you pass this test do you think the woman would approach you?
Don't rely on women approaching you. Very few will... instead, why don't you try to approach her?
 

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Originally posted by DJUofS
Don't rely on women approaching you. Very few will... instead, why don't you try to approach her?
I thought you were saying it was possible if you pass her test that she might appraoach you.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by Fatality
I thought you were saying it was possible if you pass her test that she might appraoach you.
I never said a women would approach you. I said she might be testing you. Dude, just go up to her and say "whatsup". If she is into you she will make the conversation flow...
 

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It is too common

I experience it every now and then
in office i act somewhat aloof to gals.
and many of the gals try to get my slight attention (like crossing in front of me, to get a reaction from me.)
but when i don't give any they would talk to guys in front of me.

so it is normal.
And i also give them the dose of their own game. When i notice some gal is giving me attitude i make the laugh the other women in front of her. and if i get chance the hottest few.

And i have noticed that it gives them frustration and jolts inside.

thanks to This site i have learned to handle myself better, though lots of things to learn.
 
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