Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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defiancy

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After you gave body language to the girl like eye contact and all that stuff and she is sexually interested or interested like how FINGERs talks about WEAPONS OF MASS SEDUCTION, if you don't talk to her or make a move fully then would she try to pursue you and make you jealous by talking to other guys right when they're next to you.....

Just a thought that came up within me...
Your opinions?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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DJUofS

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Originally posted by defiancy
After you gave body language to the girl like eye contact and all that stuff and she is sexually interested or interested like how FINGERs talks about WEAPONS OF MASS SEDUCTION, if you don't talk to her or make a move fully then would she try to pursue you and make you jealous by talking to other guys right when they're next to you.....

Just a thought that came up within me...
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If a girl is interested in you and you aren't giving her any attention, she may talk to other guys to try and make you jealous. This is one of women's many tests. How do you pass? Don't give a fvck.
 

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i find your wording so odd in that you say "gave body language". . .

It's not really something that you give . . . If you think the girl is hot... it should only come natural to try to make eye contact.
 

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If you do that DJUofS, wouldn't she want you or something?
 

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I remember a girl some years ago that was flirting with me for a full hour, she then went to the dancefloor (which was at another part of the club) and proceeded to dance with her friend.

I finally got the courage to get my afc-ass over there to talk to her. Ended up kissing and all. She said she found me very attractive. Me being shy and clueless I asked her: What if I hadn't come up to talk to you?
She said: I would have found someone else.

So the point is: The only thing she can see when flirting with you is your appearance and for most girls that is not worth the trouble to go after you.

She may try to make you jealous by dancing with someone else. But she could also be dancing with someone else because he's equally attractive - or maybe even less - but has the balls to go up and talk to her.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by defiancy
After you gave body language to the girl like eye contact and all that stuff and she is sexually interested or interested like how FINGERs talks about WEAPONS OF MASS SEDUCTION, if you don't talk to her or make a move fully then would she try to pursue you and make you jealous by talking to other guys right when they're next to you.....

Just a thought that came up within me...
Your opinions?
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I do think women would do something like that to make you jealous if you weren't making a move. If you never make the move she will assume that you weren't interested or you were too shy to make a move. Not good, so just talk to her already before she's gone forever.
 

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Originally posted by defiancy
If you do that DJUofS, wouldn't she want you or something?
Generally a women tests you when she is interested in you.
 

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Originally posted by DJUofS
Generally a women tests you when she is interested in you.
So if you pass this test do you think the woman would approach you?
 

DJUofS

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Originally posted by Fatality
So if you pass this test do you think the woman would approach you?
Don't rely on women approaching you. Very few will... instead, why don't you try to approach her?
 

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Originally posted by DJUofS
Don't rely on women approaching you. Very few will... instead, why don't you try to approach her?
I thought you were saying it was possible if you pass her test that she might appraoach you.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by Fatality
I thought you were saying it was possible if you pass her test that she might appraoach you.
I never said a women would approach you. I said she might be testing you. Dude, just go up to her and say "whatsup". If she is into you she will make the conversation flow...
 

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It is too common

I experience it every now and then
in office i act somewhat aloof to gals.
and many of the gals try to get my slight attention (like crossing in front of me, to get a reaction from me.)
but when i don't give any they would talk to guys in front of me.

so it is normal.
And i also give them the dose of their own game. When i notice some gal is giving me attitude i make the laugh the other women in front of her. and if i get chance the hottest few.

And i have noticed that it gives them frustration and jolts inside.

thanks to This site i have learned to handle myself better, though lots of things to learn.
 
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