"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Regaining sexual confidence

Dman101

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HOw do you re(gain) your sexual confidence. I've had numberous times where i had a girl naked ready to have sex, but i would not be able to find the hole. After this happning with about 3 or 4 girls, I developed anxiety about sex, and now I've not been able to stay hard. Theres a girl i've been hangin out with for about 3 months that I kiss and hang with, and i know i need to have sex with her because i sense the Interest Level is going down, but I'm scared to take the chance and mess up again and lose all interest. the furthest i've gone is massaging her and touching her titties. What should i do
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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CrunchyNut

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I'm not sure how you can solve the "hardness" problem, but next time you get to the stage with her naked ask her to guide you in.
 

The Bat

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You couldn't find the hole? With 3 different girls?

You do realize that part of sexual confidence is to ask for help when you need it? I'd go with what CrunchyNut suggested and ask her to guide you in next time.

As far as the "hardness" problem, get out of your head. Don't be scared to lose all interest. Would you rather have tried and failed or NOT try and not know whether you could've have failed or passed?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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