"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Refining Charisma

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I believe, to become successful in anything, one needs to learn the art of speech. Personally, I believe that I am somewhat charismatic, however, there is always room for improvement :)

In this post, I want people who have read books on charisma or articles on charisma that give the most concise explanations and advice.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Read a book on charisma yourself. Concise enough? :p
 

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Haha, that is concise enough. But I'm looking for books that are worth investing time in, cuz time is something I have very little of...
 

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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Several great books that deal with charisma, charm, social grace, and personal power:

* Irresistable Attraction: Secrets of Personal Magnetism. By Kevin Hogan, Mary Lee Labay, and Jack Swaney. (5 Stars)

* The New Secrets of Charisma: How to Capture the Magic Skills of Leaders and Lovers. By Doe Lang. (4 Stars)

* Putting Your Best Foot Forward: How to Make a Great Impression by Controlling How Others See You. By Jo-Ellan Dimitrius and Mark Mazzarella. (5 Stars +!)

* How to be a People Magnet. By Leil Lowndes. (4 Stars)

* How to Win Friends and Influence People. Norman Vincent Peale. (5 Stars).

I would recommend starting with the "Putting Your Best Foot Forward..." book by Dimitrius and Mazzarella because it is the most comprehensive (IMO) and features a number of suggestions for putting the principles into practice so that it is more than just 'head knowledge'. IMO, impression management is the best general framework for examining and applying the concepts of charisma, charm, etc.

Happy reading.
 
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