"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Refining Charisma

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I believe, to become successful in anything, one needs to learn the art of speech. Personally, I believe that I am somewhat charismatic, however, there is always room for improvement :)

In this post, I want people who have read books on charisma or articles on charisma that give the most concise explanations and advice.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Read a book on charisma yourself. Concise enough? :p
 

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Haha, that is concise enough. But I'm looking for books that are worth investing time in, cuz time is something I have very little of...
 

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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Several great books that deal with charisma, charm, social grace, and personal power:

* Irresistable Attraction: Secrets of Personal Magnetism. By Kevin Hogan, Mary Lee Labay, and Jack Swaney. (5 Stars)

* The New Secrets of Charisma: How to Capture the Magic Skills of Leaders and Lovers. By Doe Lang. (4 Stars)

* Putting Your Best Foot Forward: How to Make a Great Impression by Controlling How Others See You. By Jo-Ellan Dimitrius and Mark Mazzarella. (5 Stars +!)

* How to be a People Magnet. By Leil Lowndes. (4 Stars)

* How to Win Friends and Influence People. Norman Vincent Peale. (5 Stars).

I would recommend starting with the "Putting Your Best Foot Forward..." book by Dimitrius and Mazzarella because it is the most comprehensive (IMO) and features a number of suggestions for putting the principles into practice so that it is more than just 'head knowledge'. IMO, impression management is the best general framework for examining and applying the concepts of charisma, charm, etc.

Happy reading.
 
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