improvingdonjuan
Senior Don Juan
bump,
lots of people are asking about C+F
so they should read this
lots of people are asking about C+F
so they should read this
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
RedKnight's ****y and Funny Free Handbook
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Oh RedKnight, i didn't mean to be harsh, even though my reply sounded that way.
I just like to see credit given where it is due.
I'll publish my thoughts on ****y and funny again sometime as well. I think it is good, but really needs to be handled carefully. I've been called an AHOLE a couple of times using it!
I just like to see credit given where it is due.
I'll publish my thoughts on ****y and funny again sometime as well. I think it is good, but really needs to be handled carefully. I've been called an AHOLE a couple of times using it!
legolas
Master Don Juan
You can tell when the moderators are getting bored.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
jakethasnake
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Cool Post.
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RedKnight04
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Some More Examples:
Your at a dinner
Me: I swear the waitress is checking the GUNS out!
(Foods bad)
Me: This food would really be great if they bought a clue.
Me: Do you cook?
Her: Yeah, Sometimes, or Always and some bla bla bla
(Say this no matter what dish she says)
Me: Yea Chef boyardee is pretty good.
REMEMBER!
Don't come off as too UNSTABLE and RUDE! Throw the C+F when your intuition feels right and then communicate normally. Then pop out again.
Your Walking
Me: What are you doing?
Her: HUH!?
Me: Yeah, you can't do that!
Her: Do WHAT!?
Me: Walk like that and be with MEEEE.
(Point to yourself with both hands but with your thumbs backwards not with your pointer)
You have to walk like this if you want to be with me. (Do your best impersination of a ****y ass walk - throw your chest out way to overly ahead - and walk with a funny grace)
Your at the Beach
Her: Lovely day huh honey?
Me: Honey? Since when do you get that honor?
Me: Yes it is, it just would be more pleasent with more of my girls with me.
Your at Home watching a Flik
Her: What a great movie!
(I put that response by her to show you where your intuition has to be - IF she is in a good mood, let her flow and than add that your having fun too)
DON'T BUST HER BALLS WHEN SHE SAYS SHE IS HAVING A GREAT TIME OR ENJOYING WHATEVER THE HELL YOUR DOING!!!
Me: Yeah, its good.
This may seem AFC but remember that your C+F has to RETREAT atleast some of the time. You have to be unpredictable. IF you keep busting and busting and busting shes not going to think you care AT ALL!
Do it but use it as a "I don't care what happens" throw in to the situation.
Hard to understand? It was for me.
Your at the Mall
Me: OH hey check that shirt out, that would be perfect for you! (Point to the ugliest shirt)
You following?
And just as an ending note. I want to give my salooot to all the others before me that invented the game or personified it.
I am not taking away from that...SO PLEASE UNDERSTAND!
Thanks, And I hopes you enjoy!
Your at a dinner
Me: I swear the waitress is checking the GUNS out!
(Foods bad)
Me: This food would really be great if they bought a clue.
Me: Do you cook?
Her: Yeah, Sometimes, or Always and some bla bla bla
(Say this no matter what dish she says)
Me: Yea Chef boyardee is pretty good.
REMEMBER!
Don't come off as too UNSTABLE and RUDE! Throw the C+F when your intuition feels right and then communicate normally. Then pop out again.
Your Walking
Me: What are you doing?
Her: HUH!?
Me: Yeah, you can't do that!
Her: Do WHAT!?
Me: Walk like that and be with MEEEE.
(Point to yourself with both hands but with your thumbs backwards not with your pointer)
You have to walk like this if you want to be with me. (Do your best impersination of a ****y ass walk - throw your chest out way to overly ahead - and walk with a funny grace)
Your at the Beach
Her: Lovely day huh honey?
Me: Honey? Since when do you get that honor?
Me: Yes it is, it just would be more pleasent with more of my girls with me.
Your at Home watching a Flik
Her: What a great movie!
(I put that response by her to show you where your intuition has to be - IF she is in a good mood, let her flow and than add that your having fun too)
DON'T BUST HER BALLS WHEN SHE SAYS SHE IS HAVING A GREAT TIME OR ENJOYING WHATEVER THE HELL YOUR DOING!!!
Me: Yeah, its good.
This may seem AFC but remember that your C+F has to RETREAT atleast some of the time. You have to be unpredictable. IF you keep busting and busting and busting shes not going to think you care AT ALL!
Do it but use it as a "I don't care what happens" throw in to the situation.
Hard to understand? It was for me.
Your at the Mall
Me: OH hey check that shirt out, that would be perfect for you! (Point to the ugliest shirt)
You following?
And just as an ending note. I want to give my salooot to all the others before me that invented the game or personified it.
I am not taking away from that...SO PLEASE UNDERSTAND!
Thanks, And I hopes you enjoy!
A small note....
The non-c&f stuff is c&f allso if you say it in a way taking it to the extreme.
like one....
her: "I want to hang out with my friends"
you: "That's awesome... did I mention I love you?"
I mean... how can anybody say THAT, without sounding sarcastic? I would have to really restrain myself to keep a straight face sayin that
The non-c&f stuff is c&f allso if you say it in a way taking it to the extreme.
like one....
her: "I want to hang out with my friends"
you: "That's awesome... did I mention I love you?"
I mean... how can anybody say THAT, without sounding sarcastic? I would have to really restrain myself to keep a straight face sayin that
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
RedKnight04
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IM getting tired of commenting on the same sh1t, but it seems every day same threads are created.
Anyway, last time. Do not overuse this stuff.. You might think C+F is awesome.. but some of the examples here are just not gonna work in your favour in real world. There are many girls out there who do not have good enough sense of humor and will consider you a self centered jerk..and no that doesnt mean they will like you, it means you should leave them alone and go your own way..
On the other hand, a little C+F plus having some BALLS to ACT C+F sometimes could be the best flirting in the world.
What do i mean?
Talking example-
Her: "What do you think of my butt?"
you - "I cant tell with those jeans on, take em off"...
Or.. since i aint scared to flirt... Give her a nice slap, or a nice grope on the butt, and say "It's alright.." Or "Handles nice" whatever.. Just making a point that sometimes acting CF is better than speaking it.. espeically when a girl is trying to make you touch her "Here, touch my tits' you take a step back and say ... "Haha, i know you want me to, but..." and grab her butt or give her a kiss, w/e
Anyway, last time. Do not overuse this stuff.. You might think C+F is awesome.. but some of the examples here are just not gonna work in your favour in real world. There are many girls out there who do not have good enough sense of humor and will consider you a self centered jerk..and no that doesnt mean they will like you, it means you should leave them alone and go your own way..
On the other hand, a little C+F plus having some BALLS to ACT C+F sometimes could be the best flirting in the world.
What do i mean?
Talking example-
Her: "What do you think of my butt?"
you - "I cant tell with those jeans on, take em off"...
Or.. since i aint scared to flirt... Give her a nice slap, or a nice grope on the butt, and say "It's alright.." Or "Handles nice" whatever.. Just making a point that sometimes acting CF is better than speaking it.. espeically when a girl is trying to make you touch her "Here, touch my tits' you take a step back and say ... "Haha, i know you want me to, but..." and grab her butt or give her a kiss, w/e
RedKnight04
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Thats good because I only date women WITH a sense of humor. But RARELY do I ever overuse this stuff.
For instance, if I am walking with a girl and their has not been a laugh for a little bit, then I'd think of something spontaneous and funny. I have never once came across a girl that did not have enough of a sense of humor that I could not make them laugh.
But Oxide, this post is so old that you might not read this, however if you do YOU OWE ME DANCE LESSONS!!!! Ok, we're even.
Aztec
Master Don Juan
I like it. It would be nice if you add some more examples.
man, most of this stuff is pretty crappy. It's mostly ****y and nothing else.
I'm not saying that i'm an expert on this, but the last girl i used c+f well with and got best repsonses with, i didn't say anything like any of your examples. I think if i had, i would be labeled lame or arrogant.
Actually, i think you are a lot like krassus in your c+f style.
I'm not saying that i'm an expert on this, but the last girl i used c+f well with and got best repsonses with, i didn't say anything like any of your examples. I think if i had, i would be labeled lame or arrogant.
Actually, i think you are a lot like krassus in your c+f style.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.