"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Red Pill Habits

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"Any man who reads too much and uses his own brain too little falls into lazy habits of thinking."- Albert Einstein

I noticed when I created goals for myself, they immediately created anxiety within me which many times overwhelmed me. It was easy planning things, than actually following through with those plans.

I studied a lot of texts and articles and this is what worked well for me.

Habits > Goals

Essentially, creating goals with the sole purpose of being happy when you achieve them leads to outcome dependence, which in turn makes us dependent on the final results and the gratification derived from it.

Once that gratification is fulfilled, you go back to your own patterns, which could become counter productive in the long run.

I tackled this problem by creating a regimen whereby all my attention and focus in a day is on 6 important habits of mine.

1. Hygiene ( Bathing + Grooming + Dressing well )
2. Working out
3. Cooking food and logging it.
4. Meditating/ Practicing mindfulness for 10 minutes
5. Reading useful articles/a book
6. Socialising with my friends usually through games like snooker

These 6 habits take my attention everyday and urgent tasks are, counter intuitively, considered lower priority than these.

I essentially consider these 6 acts the crux of my life right now.
I do have a general idea where my life is going, but not thinking about those goals and results helps me focus better on these habits and being present and focus on the NOW.

I am sure, my long term goals would automatically be fulfilled as a byproduct of these habits which constitute my lifestyle instead of being the main product or the primary concern.

I would love to have a discussion of the habits you guys have which make you a better person.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I think close family is important, and worth going out of one's way for. Often seems overlooked and taken for granted.

Habits regarding women, i think financial budgeting is crucial. It's very easy to go overboard in just a few months.

Also filtering people and creating a rotation that suits etc.
Big ups on suggesting financial budgeting. I recall I read a book called "the millionaire fastlane". This book influenced the direction of my life heavily. Recommended.
 
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