"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Red Flags

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- Has a life full of drama
- Portrays herself as a victim
- Everything is always someone else's fault
- Bad relationship with her father
- Toxic degree of wokeness
- Ex was a porn star
- Doesn't get along with your mother
- Her name is Meghan
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Green Flags

- Suggests to pay because you paid the last round
- Shows interest in your life and hobbies
- Doesn't create drama when you have other things planned and can't hang out
- Puts her phone down when she is with you (= even the good ones have problems with this)
- Doesn't leave you on read to gauge your reaction
- is happy with her life and laughs a lot

trying to keep things positive here :)
 

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Green Flags

- Suggests to pay because you paid the last round
- Shows interest in your life and hobbies
- Doesn't create drama when you have other things planned and can't hang out
- Puts her phone down when she is with you (= even the good ones have problems with this)
- Doesn't leave you on read to gauge your reaction
- is happy with her life and laughs a lot

trying to keep things positive here :)
I agree, but in 2021 people only put their phone down when they stop breathing.
 

derby1

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Shows interest in your life and hobbies
Ive been out with a quite a few over the last 3 months, and ive noticed they asked Nothing about me...(or very little)

they even messaged me to arrange a 3rd meet, and still asked very little,.

Is Social media poisoning them? Solipsism
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Modern Man Advice

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- Has a life full of drama
- Portrays herself as a victim
- Everything is always someone else's fault
- Bad relationship with her father
- Toxic degree of wokeness
- Ex was a porn star
- Doesn't get along with your mother
- Her name is Meghan
Where to start, huh?
  • Bashes on her ex or even worse every ex
  • Takes initiative sometimes
  • She is rude to waiters/waitresses or any person for that matter
  • Not willing to have an open and respectful discussion about sensitive subjects
  • Among many, many, many other (some stated here, some soon to be mentioned)

Modern Man Advice
 

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I've got a few.
  • Love bombing
  • Desperate, clingy behavior
  • Emotional trauma
  • Bald - Creates extreme insecurity, depression
  • Making bad decisions then playing the victim - Rebounding
  • Cannot communicate face to face, prefers to hide behind essay texts
  • Phone addict - Facebook addict
  • Blabbermouth - Blabs all your couple problems to friends and family behind your back
  • Talking to other guys behind your back
  • Liar - Gas lighter
  • Jealousy - I'm not talking a little which is healthy
  • Lacks empathy
  • Lives in a pigsty - very messy house
  • No money, no resources
  • Owns horses
  • Mixed messages - Hot and cold
 
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is a Leo, Aries, Sagittarius, Gemini, Virgo, or Scorpio
is on a dating app and has lived in said city for more than a year and a half
Feminist/SJW
Maintains contact with exes
owns horses
has read receipts
 

Georgepithyou

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Not willing to have an open and respectful discussion about sensitive subjects
This is a bigger red flag then you would think, it basically means she ia very stubborn and set in her ways.

Another big red flag is, they hide their last seen on messaging apps like whatsapp. It means she has a habit of ghosting or flaking on people
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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