"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Red flags.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
A wise man once told me....."They are all f(cking crazy! The question is.....can you deal with one woman's particular kind of crazy?"floydb25 said:Heh... That's why I used terms like "extreme, excessive, severe"... You can just tell when someone is no good all-around.
I can tell the difference between a *****/***** and a decent girl very easily. The former tries pretending to be decent, but fails miserably. The charade doesn't last very long at all; she can't pretend to be something she's not. It's only a matter of time before she reveals her true colors of being useless, immature, shallow, and annoying.
You just have to know what to look for, and accept them at face value. The problem most people make is believing and excusing too much... Sympathizing with skanks, and assuming there is so much more to them than what they see. "Oh, she can't be THAT bad; this is probably just a phase; she's afraid to be nice; she's only acting like she's retarded; its not her fault nobody likes her; she's just misunderstood; nobody knows her like I do". Blah blah.
Too many people assume that just because someone complains and plays the victim - means they are any better than those they complain about. So, they look for the depth that doesn't exist, and try being decent to them - in hopes of them returning the favor. But, its nothing more than a loser complaining. What you see is what you get. 100%.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
PapiChulo
Master Don Juan
People are simply delusional about who they are, what they have to offer, and what they deserve. Nobody is a good judge of their own character, and you should never take their side. Everyone has an excuse to justify what they do wrong - while still doing wrong. Hypocrisy and double standards is all too common. This is where YOU come in. It's up to you find out the truth about them.