Ok well, got to thinking to myself, over the years there are some sure signs that things ain't gonna go too well. Some of these things can be a bit overlooked, some can't, others can go be good or bad. But without further ado, here are some red flags I look out for:
The social butterfly:
Ok nothing wrong with having friends. Hell you should have some too. But the chick that has to proclaim her sociality, and make it clear nothing is coming between her and her friends and that she has to have ample friend time. Well my friend you are always gonna be on the back burner with this one. In my experience chicks like this can be like the DMV to set aside a day for you personally, take number and get in line. Along with the hassles of getting her to set aside time, it also shows she has that complex of having to prove her social worth, and is hiding behind friends, and will use this as an excuse to say she doesn't have time for a dude, relationship etc.
The iphone tapping, facebook addict:
We all know chicks these days are into this crap. Got to lay the law down right from the get and let her know to put the phone away. Make sure to not friend one like this on your social media, or better yet don't friend any plates on facebook. Too much private info and chances are she will be updating her status constantly with some random bs that could be misconstrued. Bottom line, is any chick that taps away on her phone while with you is bad manners, if the respect isn't given, once the law is laid, that is a bad sign.
The sexually repressed:
I've had a few like this. I am not naive. I know women like sex, and plenty have liked it with me, but some simply just aren't into it regardless. Bad body language (constant arm crossing, distancing, unreceptive to kino, etc) are all bad signs, and you likely are not gonna get very far. Could be lack of chemistry, or it just could be her or something that happened to her to make her this way. Regardless watch out for this vibe and if you get it cut loss asap.
The ex complainer:
This is bad. Just had one like this. It is one thing for a brief formal discussion of past relationships granted if the timing is right and the convo calls for it, but when a woman outright cries wolf at any given moment about how bad her ex was, and yada yada yada that is definitely bad mojo. Is she's talking like that about him, she will likely feel that way about you if you stick with her. Not only is that direspectful towards you since when dating someone the focus should be on that person and not the past, but that also shows she is not over that man, and has yet to mentally and emotionally move on.
Disinterest:
Flakiness, unresponsiveness, yet still stringing you along? Move on. Be sure to keep contact to the minimum, but if the reciprocation isn't there that is showing a lack of interest. Hours upon hours to respond to texts, or doesn't return calls. Don't lower yourself and take the hint, let her come to you. If she doesn't you spared yourself grief. We all know the "move mountains" quote, and if the interest is there she will do what she has to do to see you. But if she is making it out like a chore to come and see you that is a bad sign.
These are just a few of the red flags I look for in the initial phases. Curious to see what you fellas look for as red flags.....
The social butterfly:
Ok nothing wrong with having friends. Hell you should have some too. But the chick that has to proclaim her sociality, and make it clear nothing is coming between her and her friends and that she has to have ample friend time. Well my friend you are always gonna be on the back burner with this one. In my experience chicks like this can be like the DMV to set aside a day for you personally, take number and get in line. Along with the hassles of getting her to set aside time, it also shows she has that complex of having to prove her social worth, and is hiding behind friends, and will use this as an excuse to say she doesn't have time for a dude, relationship etc.
The iphone tapping, facebook addict:
We all know chicks these days are into this crap. Got to lay the law down right from the get and let her know to put the phone away. Make sure to not friend one like this on your social media, or better yet don't friend any plates on facebook. Too much private info and chances are she will be updating her status constantly with some random bs that could be misconstrued. Bottom line, is any chick that taps away on her phone while with you is bad manners, if the respect isn't given, once the law is laid, that is a bad sign.
The sexually repressed:
I've had a few like this. I am not naive. I know women like sex, and plenty have liked it with me, but some simply just aren't into it regardless. Bad body language (constant arm crossing, distancing, unreceptive to kino, etc) are all bad signs, and you likely are not gonna get very far. Could be lack of chemistry, or it just could be her or something that happened to her to make her this way. Regardless watch out for this vibe and if you get it cut loss asap.
The ex complainer:
This is bad. Just had one like this. It is one thing for a brief formal discussion of past relationships granted if the timing is right and the convo calls for it, but when a woman outright cries wolf at any given moment about how bad her ex was, and yada yada yada that is definitely bad mojo. Is she's talking like that about him, she will likely feel that way about you if you stick with her. Not only is that direspectful towards you since when dating someone the focus should be on that person and not the past, but that also shows she is not over that man, and has yet to mentally and emotionally move on.
Disinterest:
Flakiness, unresponsiveness, yet still stringing you along? Move on. Be sure to keep contact to the minimum, but if the reciprocation isn't there that is showing a lack of interest. Hours upon hours to respond to texts, or doesn't return calls. Don't lower yourself and take the hint, let her come to you. If she doesn't you spared yourself grief. We all know the "move mountains" quote, and if the interest is there she will do what she has to do to see you. But if she is making it out like a chore to come and see you that is a bad sign.
These are just a few of the red flags I look for in the initial phases. Curious to see what you fellas look for as red flags.....
