"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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red flags -am i over reacting?

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Met this woman on match. Did you see this coming?

One date...supposed to go to her place tonight.

Bad relationship with her ex
Profile complains about players.
Does not speak to her parents.
Multiple tats, pierced tongue.
Seems like low impulse control, tells me wild stories about when she's been drinking.

The good stuff, very high interest. Runners body.
Very pretty girl. Plus I like my odds tonight.

She texts constantly. Kissed me hard after first date. Pulled her profile down, hasn't been back on match.

Today she texts, saying a friend of hers just lost everything in her house and could I maybe help. Domestic issue not a fire.

WTF, I see this as hugely out of line on top of multiple red flags. I'm thinking of just cutting bait, even before what looks like a fun time.

Without the lectures on online dating...I'm not overreacting right?

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Yeah she has all the classic haulmarks. She's good for one thing and thats a good time and a good time only. Even just for a good time, she'll be drama. Been there done that.
 
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Lol. Classic.
 
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Albatross953 said:
Today she texts, saying a friend of hers just lost everything in her house and could I maybe help. Domestic issue not a fire.
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After one date? No, I think this is fine. You should definitely help out her friend. And if she has a hookup with an Arabian prince who needs a bank account number to transfer over a million dollars, you should provide her with that as well.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Cword I immediately thought...Wtf is this chick a hooker? But she says she works for the cops as a civilian.

I'm really struggling to not take the easy lay. All these damn BPD threads about great sex. Of course I'm not thinking about the **** show afterwards.

I'm gonna think this through.
 
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What do you have to think through? 1 date and she's hitting you up for help? How many more red flags do you need? Normal chicks don't hit you up for help after a date.
 
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One date? And on match. You're her only resource for help?? Either she just moved from another state or she has burned too many bridges. Sounds weird to me.
 
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Do you have extra couches, beds, and TV's to spare? lol

Sounds like some kind of scam to me. I read an article a while back where women look for suckers online after a date they scam the guy out of money. They give some b.s. story where they need help financially. Usually they do it online but some do it after you meet up. This is weird, I would ignore any further texts if it was me.
 
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