"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Been hanging out with this new girl for a month, number and kiss closed when we first met. High interest level from her, lots of txts, etc in in the first few weeks. She was fun to hang with, good personally and I wanted to get her in the sack. I played it cool and let her do most of the contacting for dates etc. No sex yet, she is a bit of a prude. Just lots of making out and grinding, etc.

Then she starts to get real "busy" with work and flake a bit, I see her before thanksgiving break and she acts cold and moody but I still get kisses. I probably did some slight AFC moves at this point, but nothing major.

So a week goes by with no contact, she contacts me, and I hangout last night with her and her cute friend to get drinks and go to a concert, girl is very negative / moody again and I go for kiss when we meet up and get cheek. Since she is in a lame mood and ignore her and neg hit her while focusing on her cute friend. I was feeling good and acting real C+F, like I was the first few weeks we hung out. She claims she is tired and goes home I get the hug only, and her friend and I end up going to concert and having a good time.

Now she is going out of the country for a few weeks. At this point I am thinking she is going to drop the LJBJ bomb and I am over dealing with her. Then she contacts me a 9:00am the next morning talking about how she has a present for me that she bought over thanksgiving break and she will give it to me when she gets back.

Am I in the friend zone? She showed high to low IL, but stills keep contacting me. I think I am going to bust the ignore for a while until IL goes up.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Did you heve an argument/disagreement or something significant happen right before her attitude started to change?
 
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Gangster of Love - why don't you fix your sig? We all have seen Michael Moore films, it doesn't make you cooler to quote them in your sig.
 

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The thing that happened before she started getting cold and "busy" was that I got her out on the date on friday night, got her in bed, got her shirt off, started making out and grinding and was ready to sex her and everything. I tried to pull of the pants and touch her vag but she kelp pulling back. I kept trying but no cigar. So I spend the night in bed but no sex, arrrg. Woke up the next morning same thing, make-out sesh, but she wasn't going to for the sex. We had breakfast and I bounced said catch ya later. The AFC move that I pulled was I sent her a sweet talk text that afternoon which she didn't respond to. She contacted me next on sunday.
 

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Am I in the friend zone? She showed high to low IL, but stills keep contacting me. I think I am going to bust the ignore for a while until IL goes up.
Bust the ignore for a while
and go talk to other girls.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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