"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Been hanging out with this new girl for a month, number and kiss closed when we first met. High interest level from her, lots of txts, etc in in the first few weeks. She was fun to hang with, good personally and I wanted to get her in the sack. I played it cool and let her do most of the contacting for dates etc. No sex yet, she is a bit of a prude. Just lots of making out and grinding, etc.

Then she starts to get real "busy" with work and flake a bit, I see her before thanksgiving break and she acts cold and moody but I still get kisses. I probably did some slight AFC moves at this point, but nothing major.

So a week goes by with no contact, she contacts me, and I hangout last night with her and her cute friend to get drinks and go to a concert, girl is very negative / moody again and I go for kiss when we meet up and get cheek. Since she is in a lame mood and ignore her and neg hit her while focusing on her cute friend. I was feeling good and acting real C+F, like I was the first few weeks we hung out. She claims she is tired and goes home I get the hug only, and her friend and I end up going to concert and having a good time.

Now she is going out of the country for a few weeks. At this point I am thinking she is going to drop the LJBJ bomb and I am over dealing with her. Then she contacts me a 9:00am the next morning talking about how she has a present for me that she bought over thanksgiving break and she will give it to me when she gets back.

Am I in the friend zone? She showed high to low IL, but stills keep contacting me. I think I am going to bust the ignore for a while until IL goes up.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Did you heve an argument/disagreement or something significant happen right before her attitude started to change?
 
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Gangster of Love - why don't you fix your sig? We all have seen Michael Moore films, it doesn't make you cooler to quote them in your sig.
 

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The thing that happened before she started getting cold and "busy" was that I got her out on the date on friday night, got her in bed, got her shirt off, started making out and grinding and was ready to sex her and everything. I tried to pull of the pants and touch her vag but she kelp pulling back. I kept trying but no cigar. So I spend the night in bed but no sex, arrrg. Woke up the next morning same thing, make-out sesh, but she wasn't going to for the sex. We had breakfast and I bounced said catch ya later. The AFC move that I pulled was I sent her a sweet talk text that afternoon which she didn't respond to. She contacted me next on sunday.
 

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Am I in the friend zone? She showed high to low IL, but stills keep contacting me. I think I am going to bust the ignore for a while until IL goes up.
Bust the ignore for a while
and go talk to other girls.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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