"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Rebuilding your social circle in a new city

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Don Juan
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OK. New guy here. I want to start off by saying that the DJ Bible is an incredible resource and has helped me out tremendously. Since discovering the site about a year ago, I have made continuous improvement in my skills with women. Lately though, I seem to have found myself in a bit of a rut. You see, a few months ago, I moved out of my small town in favor of a much larger city, and I find myself with a greatly reduced social network. In my hometown, most of the people in my age group knew one another from high school, or from the parties we would often attend on the weekends.There were ample women in my social circle, and meeting new people was never a challenge, with all the house parties and whatnot. Now that I've left though, and started fresh, I'm finding it harder to meet new women, or anyone for that matter. Advice?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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First of all congrats of your new life on the new city.

My suggestion.

Skip the girls for a while. Just find a group of people that you can hangout on daily basis for drinking, sightseeing, getting to know new places etc. Slowly meet new people and build a circle. But if you got the chance with a girl, use it!

After that, lets say in 2-3 months later you can look for the new girls to hookup, date, etc...

Slowly you will be settled and had the social circle will be built up... Don't need to be in rush... I also moved from another country to United States 2 months ago. Now I had a 3 different social circle that I can count on.
 

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Solid advice, I think I'm gonna do another read-through on the Bible, I'm a little rusty.
 
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