"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Rebuilding your social circle in a new city

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Don Juan
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OK. New guy here. I want to start off by saying that the DJ Bible is an incredible resource and has helped me out tremendously. Since discovering the site about a year ago, I have made continuous improvement in my skills with women. Lately though, I seem to have found myself in a bit of a rut. You see, a few months ago, I moved out of my small town in favor of a much larger city, and I find myself with a greatly reduced social network. In my hometown, most of the people in my age group knew one another from high school, or from the parties we would often attend on the weekends.There were ample women in my social circle, and meeting new people was never a challenge, with all the house parties and whatnot. Now that I've left though, and started fresh, I'm finding it harder to meet new women, or anyone for that matter. Advice?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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First of all congrats of your new life on the new city.

My suggestion.

Skip the girls for a while. Just find a group of people that you can hangout on daily basis for drinking, sightseeing, getting to know new places etc. Slowly meet new people and build a circle. But if you got the chance with a girl, use it!

After that, lets say in 2-3 months later you can look for the new girls to hookup, date, etc...

Slowly you will be settled and had the social circle will be built up... Don't need to be in rush... I also moved from another country to United States 2 months ago. Now I had a 3 different social circle that I can count on.
 

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Solid advice, I think I'm gonna do another read-through on the Bible, I'm a little rusty.
 
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