"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Rebuilding your social circle in a new city

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OK. New guy here. I want to start off by saying that the DJ Bible is an incredible resource and has helped me out tremendously. Since discovering the site about a year ago, I have made continuous improvement in my skills with women. Lately though, I seem to have found myself in a bit of a rut. You see, a few months ago, I moved out of my small town in favor of a much larger city, and I find myself with a greatly reduced social network. In my hometown, most of the people in my age group knew one another from high school, or from the parties we would often attend on the weekends.There were ample women in my social circle, and meeting new people was never a challenge, with all the house parties and whatnot. Now that I've left though, and started fresh, I'm finding it harder to meet new women, or anyone for that matter. Advice?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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First of all congrats of your new life on the new city.

My suggestion.

Skip the girls for a while. Just find a group of people that you can hangout on daily basis for drinking, sightseeing, getting to know new places etc. Slowly meet new people and build a circle. But if you got the chance with a girl, use it!

After that, lets say in 2-3 months later you can look for the new girls to hookup, date, etc...

Slowly you will be settled and had the social circle will be built up... Don't need to be in rush... I also moved from another country to United States 2 months ago. Now I had a 3 different social circle that I can count on.
 

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Solid advice, I think I'm gonna do another read-through on the Bible, I'm a little rusty.
 
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