"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Rebuilding your social circle in a new city

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Don Juan
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OK. New guy here. I want to start off by saying that the DJ Bible is an incredible resource and has helped me out tremendously. Since discovering the site about a year ago, I have made continuous improvement in my skills with women. Lately though, I seem to have found myself in a bit of a rut. You see, a few months ago, I moved out of my small town in favor of a much larger city, and I find myself with a greatly reduced social network. In my hometown, most of the people in my age group knew one another from high school, or from the parties we would often attend on the weekends.There were ample women in my social circle, and meeting new people was never a challenge, with all the house parties and whatnot. Now that I've left though, and started fresh, I'm finding it harder to meet new women, or anyone for that matter. Advice?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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First of all congrats of your new life on the new city.

My suggestion.

Skip the girls for a while. Just find a group of people that you can hangout on daily basis for drinking, sightseeing, getting to know new places etc. Slowly meet new people and build a circle. But if you got the chance with a girl, use it!

After that, lets say in 2-3 months later you can look for the new girls to hookup, date, etc...

Slowly you will be settled and had the social circle will be built up... Don't need to be in rush... I also moved from another country to United States 2 months ago. Now I had a 3 different social circle that I can count on.
 

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Solid advice, I think I'm gonna do another read-through on the Bible, I'm a little rusty.
 
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