I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
The risk, I assume, being heartache for either side. Which is her case would mean ****ing before three dates, lol. Her unwillingness to assume this risk while insisting the man assumes theirs is an act of both control and selfishness, which ironically makes her a pretty bad long term prospect.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
1) If you are actually self improving then it will actually make finding a girl harder because you won't have the time to put up with their games and you will be more picky
to me self improvement is about being more charming and beautiful, so getting things* (and getting away with things) becomes easier. friday nite coke binges, laugh with friends, picking up girls = increases charisma. working out, diet, cologne, style, taking care of your hair/skin = beautiful. life is overwhelmingly more difficult when you are ugly and have no charisma.
In regards to #1, if you into a self-improvement hibernation for any extended length, you will find the dating market less amenable (to some degree) once you emerge from it.
Unfortunately, women will still find a way to waste your time and money regardless of if you are in a relationship or not. If a man become a machine and put women aside then he will be the most productive, butttt that's never going to happen lol.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
They won't waste your time if you use the Charlie Sheen method.