"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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really quick about kino escalation

verysuave

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u touch her, and you wait for her to touch you back before you touch her again?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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depends on context
 

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No, not usually. What is more important than her touching you is whether or not she is comfortable with it. Of course touching you is a sign, but it isn't everything. If you are slowly esculating and she is enjoying don't worry about it. Just practise, practise and practise. Don't just kino attractive girls, you have to make it natural. Do it to everyone. Eventually you shouldn't have to think about it. Start out by learning how to make gestures with your arms when you are talking so that when you go to kino it seems in context with whatever you are talking about and is natural. Don't just stand there talking then think 'crap I need to kino now' and reach over and grab her. Also, don't look where you are touching.

Look here if you haven't seen this: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=147259

Say for example if you are running that don't worry if she is touching you back. It's enough that you are esculating without resistance.
 

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yo..a good way to kino escalate is asking her a screening question. if she qualifies then you can go head and put your arm around her shoulder and say "then we can hang out". so on and so forth.

pretty easy but it will help you set the mood

btw this is my last post as xdreamz..for now on posting under Sneaky_Beta :D
 
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