"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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cola

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What the **** is a alpha male? No one is a alpha male. some dudes are losers some aren't. Who walks around saying "I'm a alpha male" with their chest poked out ? You guys are ****ing nerds .. Why are you putting so much effort into some **** so easy ? Some guy came up with these terms and **** because they knew slacker guys would buy it and he would get paid. girls like to have sex .. Probably more than you. Stop being ****ing nerds and using these ridiculous terms and lingo and go the **** outside.. Say hi to a bunch of girls and sooner or later one of them will **** you.


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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Wildebeest

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youre right and youre wrong

action and being a man is everything will fix all of the problems you may have.

pua theory is mostly an overcomplicated mess used as a crutch by over-analytical weak boys.

the thing is, as mystery once said, we're here because your fathers never taught you how to be men.

pua theory is mostly a scam for money. the true solution is becoming your own man.
 

zekko

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There is such a thing as an alpha male, but I guarantee you 95% of the guys calling themselves that on this forum are not it. You're not an alpha male just because you convince yourself that you are. You're not an alpha male just because you have some confidence in yourself, or aren't afraid to talk to girls, or because you know what a neg is, or because you got laid last night.

Walking around thinking you are an alpha male is not a bad mindset to have. Walking around saying you are an alpha male most likely makes you out to be a frigging joke.
 

Htienvu

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Of course there are such thing as Alpha male, it's just a name for being a leader of a pack. Like an Alpha Wolf. However, most guys misunderstand how it is to be Alpha male. It's not just being the toughest, but also being intelligent, knowing how to act/treat people and others look up to you for being the way you are.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Jariel

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Absolutely true and well said. What amuses me is that PUAs think they can instantly become an alpha male by walking, talking or acting a certain way, but the very fact that they are trying so hard to prove themselves shows just how insecure and pathetic they really are.

The same goes for the old "bad boy" term. In reality, a bad boy is someone who steals cars, robs people, sells drugs, has done time for rape and/or assault (and sodomized the pretty boys while inside), NOT some nerd who speaks like a gangsta rapper, acts rude to people in the vague hope of getting a girl to look at him, swears, smokes or drops litter.

Instead of aiming to be an alpha male or a bad boy, you should just focus on being happy, making the most of yourself and pursuing the things you want. That way you will become a PIMP and everyone knows a pimp outranks all other PUAs.
 
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