"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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One thing I have been doing recently is going to book stores. And in the leadership or management section, picking up books written by or about leaders. Such as CEO's, Military Generals, U.S. Presidents, famous sports stars, ETC. General Patton is my favorite one. Learning about their state of mind, what they do to get motivated. How they learned to be sucessful in life.

These books are filled with motivating quotes and ideas. It has helped me get into a positive state of mind. They mention to. Be confident. Have a no quit attitude. And never give up your dreams and goals. ETC.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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jd782 said:
One thing I have been doing recently is going to book stores. And in the leadership or management section, picking up books written by or about leaders. Such as CEO's, Military Generals, U.S. Presidents, famous sports stars, ETC. General Patton is my favorite one. Learning about their state of mind, what they do to get motivated. How they learned to be sucessful in life.

These books are filled with motivating quotes and ideas. It has helped me get into a positive state of mind. They mention to. Be confident. Have a no quit attitude. And never give up your dreams and goals. ETC.
damn good tip.

I already to do that and have been doing it for almost a year and a half.

My favorite books is Think and Grow Rich, and anything wrote by authors Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen.

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I agree with "Think and Grow Rich". by Napolean Hill

Another seemily corny titled book - How to win friends and influence people.
by Dale Carnegie.

I am looking into the John Wooden (Amazing coach and philosoper) Books. Rave reviews on Amazon.

Great inner game reads. Interestly the first 2 books were written in th 30's, and then Wooden was born in 1910. Ageless wisdom.

I read the Carnegie book many years ago, and did not appreciate it until I had experience and read it again and saw the insights. (For the most part, I believe without experience there is no learning). The book's are about the author's experiences. Whether the reader can relate will depend on their's.
Same is true about this site and in other aspects in life.

And, success comes after many fails. Fail faster and you will increase your rate of success (learn and adapt). :)
 

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machoboy said:
I agree with "Think and Grow Rich". by Napolean Hill

Another seemily corny titled book - How to win friends and influence people.
by Dale Carnegie.

I am looking into the John Wooden (Amazing coach and philosoper) Books. Rave reviews on Amazon.

Great inner game reads. Interestly the first 2 books were written in th 30's, and then Wooden was born in 1910. Ageless wisdom.

I read the Carnegie book many years ago, and did not appreciate it until I had experience and read it again and saw the insights. (For the most part, I believe without experience there is no learning). The book's are about the author's experiences. Whether the reader can relate will depend on their's.
Same is true about this site and in other aspects in life.

And, success comes after many fails. Fail faster and you will increase your rate of success (learn and adapt). :)
Actually, its interesting that you talked about "How to Win Friends and Influence People"

I was just reading that during the superbowl when I was writing a letter to one of my contacts within a not-for-profit company.

Really helped me out to write the letter.

Most of those books are really friggen good to have and read and reread.

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I agree with "Think and Grow Rich". by Napolean Hill

Another seemily corny titled book - How to win friends and influence people.
by Dale Carnegie.

I am looking into the John Wooden (Amazing coach and philosoper) Books. Rave reviews on Amazon.

Great inner game reads. Interestly the first 2 books were written in th 30's, and then Wooden was born in 1910. Ageless wisdom.

I read the Carnegie book many years ago, and did not appreciate it until I had experience and read it again and saw the insights. (For the most part, I believe without experience there is no learning). The book's are about the author's experiences. Whether the reader can relate will depend on their's.
Same is true about this site and in other aspects in life.

And, success comes after many fails. Fail faster and you will increase your rate of success (learn and adapt). :)
"fail faster"
 
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